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control and calling the shots in the bedroom.
     
    Now, within that framework, there is a lot of room for interpretation. It can mean anything from simply being the one who initiates sex, to telling your partner exactly what you want to do to her or what you want her to do to you, to spanking, biting and hair-pulling. It’s all a matter of degrees, and it all depends on what you as a couple are comfortable doing. Not everyone has to swing from the chandeliers!
     
    One more thing it isn’t: BAD or WEIRD. Sex, and all sexual activity, is comprised of a powerful dynamic between you and your partner. To experiment with sexual assertiveness is a perfectly natural thing to do, as it shows you are observing that dynamic and wanting to explore your boundaries.
     
    Likewise, as we have gone over previously, there are many, many reasons why your partner wants you to be more sexually assertive.
     
    Once you come to terms with this dynamic, your next step is to overcome any shyness you have, or any fear you have of being assertive, and to go ahead and come out of that shell and show your lady you’re all man!
     
    OVERCOMING SHYNESS
     
    So, let’s talk about overcoming that shyness of yours.
     
    It’s perfectly OK to be shy when it comes to sex. There are many perfectly normal reasons why.
     
You might not love the way your body’s looking right now.
You’ve been feeling unconnected with your wife or girlfriend.
You’re not sexually experienced.
You had a bit of equipment malfunction recently, and you are afraid it’ll happen again.
Something embarrassing happened the last time you had sex.
It’s been a while since you two have gotten it on.
You’re distracted by work stress, relationship tension, or maybe you’re not getting along with a friend.
You really want to have sex, but you’re not getting the “please jump me” vibe from your better half.
     
    That’s just a partial list. My point is that it’s totally OK to be feeling shy about having any sex at all, let alone any kind of experimental sex. But let’s see if we can come up with some ideas to get you back to taking care of business.
     
    The key is not to think about the actual sex part. Work your way up to that by gaining your confidence in other ways.
     
Start by being more physical with her during non-sexual times; a hand on the back when letting her go in front of you, a touch as you pass in the hallway or the kitchen, or taking her hand or linking arms when you’re walking together.
     
Kiss her! There are a million ways to kiss her. Don’t be apologetic or shy about taking a moment to spin her around, take her in your arms and kiss her. It’ll make you feel less shy, and it’ll boost your alpha male status! Especially if you tell her it’s for no reason except that she’s your woman and she’s beautiful.
     
Waiting in line at the movies? Standing at the kitchen sink? Reading at the table? Use these times to bear hug her from behind and give a little nuzzle. Again, it will make you more comfortable being physical, and asserting yourself with her.
     
To kick it up a notch and get you back in the game, go for some light making out when there’s no chance of it leading to sex – in the car before going into a restaurant, in the hallway by the bathrooms at the bar, or just about anyplace else you can think of that wouldn’t make either of you uncomfortable or embarrassed. It even works at home!
     
    This last one also works as you get more confident for showing a little bit more assertiveness. If she starts to pull away a bit, pull her closer and keep going a little bit longer than she wants – you decide when it’s time to stop.
     
    As for getting down in the sack, lengthy foreplay is best to overcome shyness. Make out like it’s your job! Make out until neither of you can stand it anymore. Even if she seems overly ready to take it to the next level, tell her you’re not done with her yet, and really drive her wild.
     
    When you’re