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both super ready to have sex, shyness will be the last thing on your mind, I assure you. It will also boost your confidence to have a woman begging you to be inside her! And you will have found another way to start moving in on alpha male territory in the bedroom.
     
    I’d like to say a word or two about talking to your partner about your shyness. Obviously, this might be difficult to do! And to be honest, while I advocate open communication, sometimes talking about shyness in the bedroom can make it become a much larger issue than it needs to be.
     
    If you do feel the need to talk about it, I’d recommend doing it right after having sex. This might sound strange, I know, but it’s a good time to open up about the feelings you’re having. This can also start a discussion about how she can help you work it out, which is a wonderful time to bring up assertiveness. You can tell her what you want to have happen during your next roll in the hay, and you can get around to calling the shots in a way that completely has her on your side.
     
    MAKING IT A HOT, PASSIONATE EXPERIENCE SHE WILL REMEMBER
     
    Later on in this book, I’m going to talk to you about the specifics of alpha male bedroom behavior. But for now, I’d like to address how to communicate in the bedroom in a way that makes you both feel comfortable without blowing the whole vibe.
     
    Real-time demonstrating and reinforcement are two ways to keep the mood while figuring out if what you’re doing is working or not. Let’s take a look at what that means.
     
    Some people mistakenly think that male assertiveness in the bedroom is the equivalent of “Bitch, make me a sandwich.” This couldn’t be further from the truth. As I’ve said before, I want to stress that this has nothing to do with the fact that equality is the foundation of any strong relationship.
     
    When you’re experimenting with assertiveness in the bedroom, however, it’s important to communicate with your partner. This lets her know what you’re up to, and that you’re not going overboard. It also allows her to have the confidence to speak up if she’s uncomfortable.
     
    A way to do this while keeping things hot and getting her involved is by demonstration. For example, say you want her to give you a blowjob in a particular way. Instead of explaining it, tell her you want a blowjob “like this” – and then go down on her to show her the rhythm or tongue trick you might want. This makes it a mutual pleasure-seeking activity while playing the assertive role.
     
    Another example of staying in the moment while making subtle adjustments or directing what’s going on is when she’s uncomfortable with something you’re doing. Say you’re having “doggie-style” sex and you’re pulling her hair, and she says “OUCH!” in a way that is not part of the sexy vibe. Don’t panic – the mood isn’t ruined! Stop pulling, but instead run your fingers through her hair. Then, gradually build back up to pulling, but not so tight. And no need to fumble or apologize; a simple, “OK, Baby” will suffice. Use your actions more than words or explanations, and you’ll soon see you will have developed a language all your own.
     
    A debriefing afterward doesn’t have to be so clinical, either. Keep the talk brief and in the moment still. Instead of saying, “I hope I wasn’t too rough” or apologizing for something she hasn’t even brought up, keep a subtle air of alpha male where this is concerned.
     
    “How about when I did this or that, was that too rough for you, Baby? You just say the word, and I’ll be all over you. Damn, that was hot.” Let her know that it’s a mutual pleasure that is derived from this experimentation, while making it clear that even though you’re in charge, it’s all being done in a safe environment.
     
    There can be a situation where, once you’ve gotten into acting out this scenario, you are, or she is, simply not into it. Or, the both of you might