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    The Buildup Dirty talk isan effective way to build orgasmic momentum. It lets partners communicate where they are in the arousal cycle—that is, how close they are to climax—and it also helps bring a partner to a sexual crescendo. A dominant may order a submissive to climax by saying something like, “I want you to come now,” or a submissive may say, “I can’t stop it—I’m going to come and it’s going to hurt.”
    The Release Talking dirty during orgasmic release provides sexy mood music to accompany and even intensify sexual climax. A male dominant might describe what he is feeling during release by saying, “I can feel it pumping out of me,” while his female submissive might say, “I can feel you filling me up—it feels so hot.”
    Voice tone is another element of dirty talk that should be considered. Dirty talk shouldbe low, throaty and erotic. Remember: you’re reveling in sexual abandon, not placing an order at a drive-thru window. Your voice tone should suit the occasion. A dominant should speak with sexual authority and confidence. A submissive should speak with deference and, in certain BDSM situations, hesitation or dread.

20. The Sounds of Sex
    BDSM can be a rough game. Loud groans, shrieks of pleasurable pain and heavy breathing should fill the room (or dungeon, as the case may be). A submissive who is being “taken” by a dominant can intensify the experience for both players by uttering pained, muffled moans or screaming. A dominant should let his or her vocal gasps, groans and grunts complementthe slapping of his or her body against the submissive. Much BDSM gear is designed to add an auditory element to sex: paddles, whips, chains and even latex clothing all bring a distinct sound to sexplay.

21. A Public Power Play
    Erotic domination isn’t restricted to the bedroom or BDSM dungeon. To maximize the allure and impact of the power imbalance between partners, couples may wish to occasionally play outside. This is an adventurous way to engage in BDSM foreplay.
    Happily, modern sex toy technology can keep a public power play as discreet as it is decadent. To playin this way, the dominant male partner should purchase a remote-controlled bullet vibrator for his female submissive (see #29 ). He should invite his partner out for dinner, but insist that she slip the small vibrator inside her body first. He, of course, will keep the remote control. During dinner, the dominant should play with the controls at his pleasure, subjecting his submissive to unexpectedbursts of intense genital stimulation. Not only will the submissive’s body be randomly incapacitated and involuntarily aroused by the vibration, but the dominant can revel in the power he exerts over his partner, even—perhaps especially—in public.
    A remote-controlled “strap-on” bullet vibrator attaches to a woman’s panty and stimulates the clitoris. Worn outside her body, it is an alternativeto an internal bullet vibrator. When choosing either item, look for a cordless model with quiet functioning and good range.

22. BDSM Rituals
    In BDSM play, rituals are often performed to help partners transition from their regular roles as spouses, parents, workers and so on, and into their BDSM roles as dominant and submissive. Rituals can also help couples clear their heads of day-to-day distractions, so that they can immerse themselves in the experience and thus fully enjoy the erotic escapismof BDSM sexplay. Rituals can also serve as a form of foreplay by increasing sexual anticipation.
    Rituals should be tailored to a couple’s preferences and lifestyle. Some dominants may instruct their submissive to wear a certain item of clothing during the day, such as a specific pair of underwear or a pair of handcuffs under a long-sleeved shirt, so that sex stays on the submissive’s brainduring his or her workday. A dominant may also order a submissive to prepare a specific meal or shave/trim his or her pubic hair in a