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certain way. Other couples may exchange X-rated email or texts to spark arousal (see #19 ). Still others may share a shower or bath together. Some female dominants will paint their nails deep red or purple to foreshadow BDSM play, thus sending a silent but ritualisticmessage to the submissive.

23. What Should I Wear?
    Because of its striking visual impact, BDSM clothing can bring an extra sense of novelty to sexplay. A female dominant or submissive may want to wear high heels, stockings and a garter, a snug corset or even a saucy catsuit. Open-crotch panties, adhesive nipple covers (also called pasties) and open or cupless bras can visually arouse any man, dominantor submissive.Warning: There are no lace, frills or rose-petal designs allowed in BDSM. You’re a dominatrix, not a doily. More vamp, less Victoria’s Secret.
    A male dominant or submissive can wear a variety of boxers, briefs and G-strings that are designed to emphasize his erection. Women are constantly inundated with shiny images of augmented breasts, some lifted to such dizzying heightsby anti-gravitational push-up bras that NASA could strap one of these puppies onto an astronaut and use it to simulate zero gravity. BDSM briefs for men, with their bulge-enhancing black latex, finally give the fairer sex some erotic eye candy.
    BDSM clothing can also bring added tactile enjoyment to sexplay. Leather, PVC, latex and even rubber clothing can all feel exquisitely sensual toboth the wearer and his or her partner. Much of it is snug in just the right places. Many dominants delight in the feel of a submissive’s latex-clad body and such attire can help a submissive stay in character. Men’s underwear that is designed for the BDSM scene often adds feel-good friction to the genital area.
    Uniforms can also be worn during BDSM play to enhance fantasy role-plays. Tocomplement a dungeon fantasy, a female dominant may wish to wear the classic dominatrix “discipline” corset dress, while her male submissive wears a latex jock. To enhance a racy prostitute fantasy, the female player may prefer to wear a PVC vamp dress while her client wears a suit and tie.

24. Voyeurism & Exhibitionism
    Voyeurism (a desire to watch an unsuspecting person undress and have sex) and exhibitionism (a desire to be watched as you undress or have sex) often play a part in BDSM. To engage the control dynamics of BDSM sexplay, a dominant may order a submissive to perform a sexual act in public. Obviously, this type of game should be extremely discreetand more fantasy than reality. For example, a female dominant might instruct her male submissive to stroke his genitals while driving on a deserted street, while a male dominant may tell his female submissive to expose her breasts. This rouses a sense of exhibitionism in a risk-free way.
    To play with the idea of voyeurism, some BDSM couples will attend strip or peep shows. Unlike pornography,this real-time, real-world experience has a greater element of voyeurism to it. A toned-down alternative is to visit online chat rooms and watch “live sex” via webcams. You only have to Google “webcam sex” and you’ll have a thousand to choose from. Again, the real-time quality of webcam sex rooms has a decidedly voyeuristic quality to it. To include a control component, the dominant may orderhis or her submissive to perform the same sex acts as the on-screen performers.

31. Erotic Electrostimulation
    Erotic electrostimulation or “electrosex” is a BDSM practice wherein ultra-mild electrical currents stimulate the genitals. Because this edgy form of sexplay has inherent dangers, couples must only use high-quality e-stim products—including power boxes, accessories and electrosex gel—from reputable sources, such as established sex shops. So no,you can’t put the dog’s anti-bark collar on your husband and make him bark on all fours. This is one area where improvisation is not a good idea. It is generally recommended that electrosex products be