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don’t want to keep it or own it then constantly referring to it as ‘mine’ is giving your brain very confusing messages.
    Therefore you must prefix anything you want to be free of with the word ‘the’ not the pronoun ‘mine’ or progressive adjective ‘my’. ‘The’ is a neutral word which is why women hate being called ‘the wife’ instead of my wife as it does not imply pride or connection, it’s just ambiguous. As soon as you talk about ‘the’ weight issue, ‘the’ excess weight, ‘the’ big stomach, ‘the’ pudding, you have no emotion attached to it and it becomes easier to become and stay free of it. Do not talk about ‘my fat legs’, ‘my big bum’, ‘this fat stomach of mine’, ‘my greed’, ‘my weight problem’, ‘my chocolate addiction’. Stop saying, ‘I love my chips’, ‘I need my biscuits’, ‘I have to have my puddings’.
    If you slip up just correct yourself. You didn’t know better before and now that you do you are going to do better all the time.
    Using the previous examples write out all the words you are going to use to replace ‘loss’. Next, taking note of how you refer to yourself, write out the words you are going to use instead of ‘my’ and ‘mine’.
    The opposite of owning it and calling it ‘mine’ is shown by people who have no responsibility at all for the weight they have become. Many overweight people do not want to take responsibility for their excess weight and instead try miracle pills or diets, jaw wiring or stomach stapling. I was sent one client who, after having her jaw wired, was drinking twelve pints of milk a day. I noticed that she didn’t once use the word ‘I’ but always used ‘you’, for example, saying, ‘You can’t leave biscuits’, ‘You can’t not eat chips when they are on your plate’. ‘You have to eat when people cook for you’. ‘You can’t leave the last few sweets’. Eventually I said to her ‘Why do you keep saying “you”? I have no problem saying no to biscuits. Let’s just talk about you.’
    I made her replace ‘you’ with ‘I’ and got her to see that by not associating with her behaviour she was not able to recover. As long as she was saying ‘you’ she wasn’t even talking about herself – she was talking about other people just like her. Saying ‘you’ makes the problem global instead of individual. Making it global is saying everyone does this so I am not at fault. It is making the whole world just like you so you don’t have to feel different or responsible. It was no different to saying, ‘One can’t say “no” to chocolate, or ‘One needs puddings to cheer up’.
    Another way people disassociate is to refer to themselves as big, for example, ‘We are big people so we can’t really exercise’, or ‘I am a big person so I need more food’, or ‘I come from a big family’. If you are overweight it can be very painful and you certainly don’t need more pain but you do need to take responsibility for the words you use to talk to and about yourself. Don’t disassociate and talk about what other people do. Let’s just make this all about you.

More on Words
    The words you use in front of words can dramatically increase and decrease the intensity of your statement. For example, ‘I am successful’ is more intense when you say ‘I am incredibly successful’ or ‘constantly successful’. ‘I love eating like this’ is stronger when you say ‘I always love eating like this’. ‘This eating plan is so easy’ is easier still when you say ‘this eating plan is so amazingly easy’. Equally, chips become less appealing if you say ‘fatty, oily, greasy, lardy chips floating in an oil slick’. Swear words are naturally used to increase the intensity of descriptions so use this to your advantage: ‘I look fantastic’ is more intense when you say ‘I look fan-bloody-tastic’, and ‘I look so damn amazing’ is more powerful than just amazing.
    Avoid words