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Desensitizing lubes reinforce the myth that anal penetration has to be painful and that discomfort is inevitable. They are bad products with a bad message, and I never recommend them.
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LUBE POINTERS
    When using lube, you want to coat whatever you are planning to insert—a finger, a toy, a penis—in lube, then slide it inside. Be generous with water-based lubes and remember that they will eventually dry up, so be prepared to re-lube and add more periodically. You need less silicone lube and it shouldn’t dry up at all, although, as the action gets going, have it handy in case you want more. It’s a good idea to have a box of baby wipes nearby to clean up lube spills and other mishaps.
    If you find that you can’t get enough lube to go where you need it to, there are two products on the market that are designed to do that very job. The Astroglide Gel Shooter is a soft plastic tube of Astroglide Gel with a long flexible neck. Tear off the top, slide the neck inside the ass and squeeze. Voila: lube right where you need it! The Lube Shooter is a disposable plastic syringe with a flared base for safety. You can fill it one of two ways. Remove the cap on the tip, put the tip into a bottle of lube, pull the plunger up, and draw the lube into it like a syringe. Or remove the plunger and pour your favorite lube into the barrel (this can be a little messy), then replace the plunger. Once it’s filled, lube the tip of the syringe and gently insert it into the ass. Push the plunger down gently to release the lube. You can refill it and repeat.



CHAPTER 4
A PENETRATION PRIMER
     
REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
    One of the worst mistakes that people make when it comes to anal sex is that they rush the process. Remember, the ass is delicate and sensitive and needs to be handled gently. The slower you go in the beginning, the better it will be for everyone in the end. Progressing too quickly is a recipe for discomfort and pain, and a virtual guarantee that your partner will
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want to go to the backdoor again. Be patient. Take a deep breath. Don’t let your enthusiasm overcome you! Take it very slowly, and check in with your partner along the way.
    The objective is not to “stretch” the ass, but rather to learn to relax the sphincter muscles to make penetration comfortable and pleasurable. If your partner has never experienced anal penetration, then the first time you explore it, don’t expect you’re going to end up with your penis inside her. Set a much more realistic goal for that maiden voyage: try one finger in her ass, your tongue, hand, or a vibrator on her clitoris, and a rousing orgasm. Not only will this be fun, it will be a positive introduction to anal pleasure and a solid foundation to build on. You want her to have a series of pleasurable experiences—and you want her body to remember—so that each time you begin to stimulate the area, all her senses associate it with arousal, pleasure, and satisfaction.
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    Just For Nervous Beginners
     
    If you are new to anal pleasure and nervous about it, before you explore it with your partner, make a date to try it with yourself. The next time you masturbate, try incorporating some anal play into the mix. When you are by yourself, you can set the pace, go as slowly as you need to, and stop whenever you want. Because you’re alone, the pressure of pleasing your partner is off the table and you can really concentrate on how you feel and what you want. Begin with external stimulation until you’re ready to move on to having something inside. You may choose to use your own fingers (see next section for some pointers) or a sex toy (you’ll find plenty of tips on this in the next chapter as well). Use plenty of lube and find a comfortable position that makes it easy for you to reach your anus. Solo sessions, where you experiment with different toys and sensations, may help you find the things that work best for you and get you acquainted with your ass in a new way. When