and the compulsion to overthink
There is a direct relationship between feeling bad due to resisting things and the compulsion to overthink. The mind wants to feel good. In fact, it is the natural tendency of your mind to do whatever it can to help you to be happy. Much of your mindâs activity stems from the positive intention to be happy. As a direct consequence, whenever yourmind notices what itâs learned to be a ânegativeâ emotional energy, it feels compelled to figure out all possible ways to make the bad feelings go away so you can once again be happy.
Having noticed a negative emotion, two questions usually come to mind:
What am I feeling?
Why am I feeling this way?
Finding the answers to these questions frequently involves lots of mental activity. Once you have given the energy a label - anger, sadness, or anxiety, for example - you will find your mind has a brilliant ability to think up logical and legitimate reasons for why you are feeling the way you do. For example, just a few of the common reasons might be,
Iâm feeling this way because of what they just said.
Iâm feeling this way because of the state of my bank account.
Iâm feeling this way because Iâm stuck in this job.
And maybe the other person did say something that was unpleasant to hear, perhaps you are genuinely struggling for cash this month, or you could possibly benefit from moving jobs. But this isnât the point if you want mind calm. More important is to see the mindâs hidden causes of overthinking, which happen behind the scenes and are often the source of undesirable feelings. Resisting life wonât resolve the relationship disagreement, doesnât help you make more money or make you more effective in gettinga new job. Resistance only causes you unnecessary stress and suffering. When you get this, it becomes the obvious choice to let go of resistance and take whatever action is required with mind calm.
Resistance causes stress and suffering.
Acceptance creates calm and is the more conscious way to live.
Quick cure 1: Remove Reactive Resistance
Lack of money, for example, isnât the cause of bad feelings. Instead, the source of those bad feelings is the mindâs judgements and inner resistance to what appears to be happening. If you are willing to play with this possibility then you can be free to feel good now. Worry doesnât help either. In fact, worry involves focusing on the very things you donât want. In short, resistance makes you narrow-minded and magnetizes you to the things you donât want.
By seeing the resistance instead of reactively resisting, the compulsion to overthink about your perceived predicament reduces and is replaced with clear-minded clarity and creativity on ways to improve things. The same is true for any other challenge that you face. Whenever you notice any negative emotions or overthinking about a problem, I recommend you take time out to see the resistance instead of unconsciously resisting. Ask: What in my life is my mind currently resisting?
Possible responses might include:
I can see that my mind is resisting what happened in my past.
I can see that my mind is resisting my physical condition.
I can see that my mind is resisting where Iâm currently living.
Having identified what you are pushing away, return to having harmony with life by resting instead of resisting. This easy exercise creates a moment of conscious calm. Provided, of course, that you are open to seeing that it is your allowing or resistance that is causing your negative emotions rather than your circumstances. Why intentionally go on resisting life if you know it is your resistance thatâs making you feel bad? Thatâs not going to help anything because what you resist persists.
Resistance only keeps you stuck to what it
is you donât want. Instead, let your mind
become calm by rising above resistance.
Quick cure 2: Bring it on!
One very direct way to
There is a direct relationship between feeling bad due to resisting things and the compulsion to overthink. The mind wants to feel good. In fact, it is the natural tendency of your mind to do whatever it can to help you to be happy. Much of your mindâs activity stems from the positive intention to be happy. As a direct consequence, whenever yourmind notices what itâs learned to be a ânegativeâ emotional energy, it feels compelled to figure out all possible ways to make the bad feelings go away so you can once again be happy.
Having noticed a negative emotion, two questions usually come to mind:
What am I feeling?
Why am I feeling this way?
Finding the answers to these questions frequently involves lots of mental activity. Once you have given the energy a label - anger, sadness, or anxiety, for example - you will find your mind has a brilliant ability to think up logical and legitimate reasons for why you are feeling the way you do. For example, just a few of the common reasons might be,
Iâm feeling this way because of what they just said.
Iâm feeling this way because of the state of my bank account.
Iâm feeling this way because Iâm stuck in this job.
And maybe the other person did say something that was unpleasant to hear, perhaps you are genuinely struggling for cash this month, or you could possibly benefit from moving jobs. But this isnât the point if you want mind calm. More important is to see the mindâs hidden causes of overthinking, which happen behind the scenes and are often the source of undesirable feelings. Resisting life wonât resolve the relationship disagreement, doesnât help you make more money or make you more effective in gettinga new job. Resistance only causes you unnecessary stress and suffering. When you get this, it becomes the obvious choice to let go of resistance and take whatever action is required with mind calm.
Resistance causes stress and suffering.
Acceptance creates calm and is the more conscious way to live.
Quick cure 1: Remove Reactive Resistance
Lack of money, for example, isnât the cause of bad feelings. Instead, the source of those bad feelings is the mindâs judgements and inner resistance to what appears to be happening. If you are willing to play with this possibility then you can be free to feel good now. Worry doesnât help either. In fact, worry involves focusing on the very things you donât want. In short, resistance makes you narrow-minded and magnetizes you to the things you donât want.
By seeing the resistance instead of reactively resisting, the compulsion to overthink about your perceived predicament reduces and is replaced with clear-minded clarity and creativity on ways to improve things. The same is true for any other challenge that you face. Whenever you notice any negative emotions or overthinking about a problem, I recommend you take time out to see the resistance instead of unconsciously resisting. Ask: What in my life is my mind currently resisting?
Possible responses might include:
I can see that my mind is resisting what happened in my past.
I can see that my mind is resisting my physical condition.
I can see that my mind is resisting where Iâm currently living.
Having identified what you are pushing away, return to having harmony with life by resting instead of resisting. This easy exercise creates a moment of conscious calm. Provided, of course, that you are open to seeing that it is your allowing or resistance that is causing your negative emotions rather than your circumstances. Why intentionally go on resisting life if you know it is your resistance thatâs making you feel bad? Thatâs not going to help anything because what you resist persists.
Resistance only keeps you stuck to what it
is you donât want. Instead, let your mind
become calm by rising above resistance.
Quick cure 2: Bring it on!
One very direct way to
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