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go along for the ride. That brings us to a question:
    • In life, are you proactive or reactive? If you tend to be
reactive, then what consequences might that have for
your M/s relationship?
    • Have you written down your goals for the next five or
ten years? How does a slave or two fit into that vision?
For example, if your vision is to live in a beautiful
mountain cabin overlooking a lake and far away from
a city, how does that mesh with your slave's thirst for big-city living, nice restaurants and theater?

    • How's your imagination? Can you think outside of
the box? To use Meyers-Briggs language, are you a
"concrete-solid" thinker or a "creative risk-taker?" Do
you have experience taking your vision and moving it
to reality? (If the answer is "no," then you may want
to consider books/courses that can train you in this
art form. Hint: it has to do with clarity of purpose and
intent. The key question is: "What are you willing to
pay to get X result?" "Pay" means time and effort, as
well as money. There's a cost to recreating yourself.)
    By the way, if the words within the parentheses in that last
paragraph whizzed by you, you may want to spend a bit
more time on them. In my experience, the ability to create
my own world is among my most valuable skills.
    • Do you read much? Fiction? Non-fiction? What do
you do with your knowledge? That is, do you keep
knowledge to yourself or do you have a way of giving
back to your community?
    • Can you translate your ideas into words? How can
you communicate your vision to your partner?
    When I examine myself and my methods of thought, I come
to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to
me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge.
    Albert Einstein
    How clearly can you describe the PERSON you seek?
    • What are you seeking in a slave? What kind of slave?
If the slave is not a vanilla (non-kinky) boyfriend or
girlfriend, what IS your slave to be??? Pleasure slave (play partner)? Service slave (servant)? Business
helper? Companion/lover?

    • What is your slave seeking in a Master? What kind of
Master? Companion for their future? A sage/teacher/mentor to rely upon? A path for sexual release?
Financial and/or emotional security? A life-travel
buddy? A spiritual guide? Leather? Why?
    • Does what you offer match what your slave seeks?
Financial or emotional stability? Sense of purpose?
Adventure? Great sex? How are your assets? Can
you afford to remake your slave (or slave-under-consideration) in your image?
    • How smart, lucid, and articulate must your partner be?
Does quickness matter to you? Does it matter that
your partner can explain him/herself succinctly and
with precision and clarity? Speaking personally, quickness matters a great deal to me. So does vocabulary
level. IQ primarily helps people get quickly to answers
- it's a "crunching power" issue. In that light, it may be
reasonable for you to be concerned about IQ because
the intellectual demands you can make on someone
with an IQ of 100 will be different than you can make
on someone with an IQ of 135.
    • Do you want to have shared values with this person?
Rather than a general "yes," let's explore...
    I would propose that at some point in your M/s relationship you
sit down with your partner - or partner-to-be - and probe how
each of you feels about words that describe values. You might
want to create a values list - very much like a pre-play negotiations checklist. Consider it a pre-M/s relationship checklist. And
there are no right or wrong answers. For example, my own
values concerning biological family and orderliness are substantially different from those of my slave. This is simply information.
Discussing these points helped us to understand our reactions to the other on these specific points.

    Here is the start of a list to consider. You will have to find longer
lists from which to create your own list, this is just a starting point