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to avoid being attractive. They fear falling back into temptation. Those who have been deprived of love may eat to make up to themselves for what they have missed.?Feeling addictions
    Rage
    Sadness
    Fear
    Excessive excitement
    Religious righteousness
    Joy fixation (wearing a continuous, frozen smile; never appearing to be angry; laughing at inappropriate times; speaking only of happy things)
    ?Thought addictions
    Excessive detailing
    Worry
    Nonstop talking
    Lustful thoughts
    Unsettled mind (never at rest; always figuring out what to say and do, how to react, etc.)
    ?Activity obsessions
    Work
    Sports
    Reading
    Gambling
    Exercise
    Television viewing
    Owning and caring for excessive numbers of pets ?Will addictions
    Controlling-Controlling people feel they must have their way in every situation. They cannot submit emotion
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    to logic or reason. They feel safe only when they are in control.Controlled-Those controlled become so passive, they give their will over to people and do whatever anyone says. They can even become possessed or severely oppressed by giving their will to the devil. They are so shame-based they feel they deserve nothing-not even choice. Reenactment addicts-These addicts reenact their own abuse on their children or repeatedly put themselves in situations as adults that produce the same type of thing that happened to them as a child. A similar scene gives flashbacks, and they take on the role of the abuser so as not to feel the painful memories of abuse. For example, a man who was beaten by his father in childhood may physically abuse his own children. He does this as a result of seeing flashbacks of the old scene and assuming the role of abuser, rather than waiting to be abused himself. A woman who was physically, sexually, or verbally abused by her father may marry a man, or even several men in succession, who will treat her in the same way. She may feel she is not worthy of anything else or that she deserves being mistreated. She may even see to it that she receives her mistreatment, perhaps even provoking the one who will abuse her. Caretaker-Some people find their worth in caring for others who need them. They feel so worthless that they become addicted to caretaking, helping, pleasing people, and being nice because doing so makes them feel good.
    Created to Feel Good Inside
    human beings we are created by God to be happy and to good (right) about ourselves. As a matter of fact, we must
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    feel good about ourselves or eventually we will develop some sort of uncontrolled behavior, because such behavior gives us "good feelings," even if only for a little while.Think about this: A person addicted to drugs probably got started because his pain was so intense he felt compelled to get rid of it and feel good (high), even if only temporarily. The same thing is prevalent with drinking.
    Many people use food as a comfort. Eating is enjoyable; it makes them feel good while they are engaging in it. Many people who have eating disorders are starving for love. They want to feel good about themselves. If they do not get good feelings from the inside, then they will get them from somewhere else.
    If you have any addictive behaviors, this chapter may help you to understand the root of the problem. You can spend your entire life trying to subdue the outward behavior (the bad fruit), but it will come out somewhere else if the root has not been taken care of.
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    Rescued by LoveIf you are a person who has been abused, by now you have probably identified some problem areas in your life. To point out problems without offering a solution to them would be disastrous. If I did that, you would end up more frustrated than you were before you began reading this book.
    I intend to outline the major truths that brought healing in my own life. As I do so, I would like to remind you that God is no respecter of persons (see Acts 10:34). What He does for one person, He will do for another, if it is a promise found in His Word.
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