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expanding, your inner and outer lips puffing up and releasing. Where your attention and breath go, your energy goes, stimulating and healing your sexual parts.
     

PRESSURE POINTS
     
    Read the information about sexual pressure points in chapter 10, “Independent Study,” and use them to increase sexual feelings, release tension, and remove sexual blocks.
     

KEGELS
     
    In Kegel exercises you tense and release your PC muscles, the sling of muscles that run along the floor of the pelvis. Exercising them increases blood flow to the genitals and strengthens the muscles, bringing more sensation to the area and not only making it more likely for you to have an orgasm but actually making your orgasms stronger. To find these muscles, next time you pee, stop the stream of urine in mid-flow: the muscles you use to do this are the PC muscles. Practice tensing and relaxing them in sets of twelve or fifteen as often as you like. Some women find it easier to squeeze when there’s an object in the vagina, such as a finger, a carrot, or a dildo. You can get a metal barbell that is made just for these exercises; Betty Dodson uses it in her therapy sessions and orgasm workshops. See chapter 11, “Sex Resources,” for her videos, books, and Web site, and information on where to purchase the barbell.
     

Being a Great Lick-ee
     
Once while my boyfriend was going down on me, I farted! He backed away and we both started laughing. It was embarrassing, but more than that it was funny. At least he knew I was completely relaxed.

     
    Being the recipient of any gift, gesture, or offer of affection calls for a certain etiquette, and something as intimate as oral sex is no exception. So when your sweetie wants to shower your vulva with kisses, there are a few things you can do to be the lick-ee of their dreams.
     
    First, remember to relax. No matter how it goes, you’re both going to enjoy your time together more if you slow down your internal clock and savor each moment of your partner’s affection. You might want to soak in a hot bath or a soothing shower to release tension—and you’ll get clean at the same time, which is the next point. If you’ve had a long day, it’s probably a good idea to rinse off, and doing so will address any cleanliness concerns you might have—another thing that will help you relax. It’s also recommended that you run your fingers through your pubic hair to pull away any strays.
     
    As much as we want them to be, our lovers aren’t mind readers. This means that at some point, you’re going to have to feel comfortable with telling, or showing, your sweetie what you want. In many sex surveys, the number one wish expressed by the earnest cunnilingus performer is for their partner to communicate what she likes—and “having her show me” is always high on the list of turn-ons.
     
    For gals who want to love oral sex, and those who already do, don’t forget to have a healthy sense of fun when it comes to your partner’s adventures below your belt. They’re not only learning what turns you on as they go along but will continue to learn throughout the course of your experiences together. Most lovers find it incredibly arousing when you explicitly whisper erotic instructions, and some become helpless hormone-driven slaves to your every move if you actually show them. It’s also fine to masturbate while they’re licking—as long as you tell them not to stop.
     
The first time I masturbated for him I was so embarrassed I kept my eyes closed the whole time. The second time I put on a show!

     

The Oral Sex Double Standard
     
Sometimes when I get really good oral sex from a woman, I feel sort of “obligated” to go down on her. But I think the last thing most women want is a half-hearted partner, just as I wouldn’t want a half-hearted blow job.

     
    What do you do when your partner loves it when you go down on them but won’t return the favor? Sadly, this is all too common, and not just in