the day we met, he had known what he wanted to do, and heâd been willing to learn and grow in whatever ways it would take to make that happen. I, conversely, had never been that sure about anything, except maybe my friendship with him. And my love for my grandmother, who died when I was little. Otherwise, my entire life had been without purpose or direction.
A loud bang from the front of the room startled me. The instructor had dropped a large, hardcover book. She bent down to pick it up, and as she returned to a standing position, she locked eyes with me. For a moment I wondered if sheâd dropped the book on purpose.
I returned my pencil to where Iâd stopped taking notes.
She continued talking. âThe patientâs safety is always of the highest concern and you must closely superviseâ¦â
Maybe I wasnât in love with Zed. Maybe I only felt as if I was because heâd be leaving for college the next day and because, above all, I was going to miss him terribly. I blinked back a tear and stared at my open notebook, realizing Iâd stopped listening again.
âAnd that is, of course, one of the biggest benefits of working with the elderly,â Patricia said, though Iâd missed the first part of her thought and hadnât a clue what she meant.
What I liked most about working with the elderly was hearing their stories. Just yesterday morning I had been taking care of Phyllis, my favorite patient here at the nursing facility, and listening to her talk about being a girl in New York City and going with her grandmother to something called the Russian Tea Room. Phyllis was in her late seventies now but still quite capable, and as we talked I suggested she stand at the mirror and brush her own hair while I cleaned her dentures. So, ya , I guess I did promote independence, even if I wasnât a firm sort of person by nature.
The instructor clicked the remote to her computer and a slide of a patient chart flashed on the screen. âWhen youâre doing home health care, youâll need to assess your client.â She clicked the remote a second time. âStart with a questionnaire for the patient and family members.â
I wrote down questionnaire .
âEncourage them to be as honest as possible.â
As honest as possible. I swallowed, trying to rid myself of the lump that had just formed. Even if I did love Zedâand I couldnât think what else this overwhelming feeling wasâI couldnât be honest with him. It would ruin our friendship. It would end our friendship. I blinked away another tear.
âIzzy, do you have a question?â
Startled, I quickly shook my head.
Thankfully someone else did, although I didnât hear exactly what it was because I was placing my pencil back on my paper. Next to questionnaire , I wrote, encourage honest answers .
Iâd never been kissed by anyone. Would kissing Zed be like kissing a buddy? Realizing Iâd just made a face, I stopped immediately and quickly looked at the instructor. She hadnât noticed.
No, kissing Zed would not be like kissing an old friend, not the way I felt three days ago. Not the way Iâd felt last night. Not the way, if I was honest with myself, I was feeling right now.
Iâd never even wanted someone to kiss me.
Until now.
A noise in the hall distracted me for a moment, but then I focused on Patricia again.
She said, âWhen youâre developing short term goalsâ¦â I wrote that down but obviously Iâd missed something.
I looked up at the screen. There was a new slide with the title Goal Setting .
The instructor continued. âEncourage the patient to pursue a hobbyâeither an old one or a new one. For example, they may no longer be able to travel, but perhaps they can write about their experiences or tell someone who can write them down. Telling stories often becomes therapeutic for patientsâ¦â
I wrote that down too. Which brought