The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love Read Online Free PDF Page B

overcharging the budget—but it does reduce minor irritations. Many a wife has commented, “My husband is easier to get along with when our love life is what it should be. The children’s jangling does not get on his nerves so much, and he finds it easier to be patient with other people.”
    Most men do not realize that some of their unexplained irritations can often be traced to an unsatisfied sex drive, but a wise wife will remain alert to this possibility. Somehow the world looks better to a man and his difficulties shrink to life size when sexual harmony prevails. It is as though his hard work and the pressures of life are worth it all when he and his wife consummate their love properly.
    More is involved in this than just the satisfaction of the glands. A man sacrifices a great deal when he gets married—or at least he thinks so. As a single man, he is rather carefree and unpressured. If he wishes to spend a night out with the boys, he doesn’t have to give an account of his whereabouts or satisfy another person’s interests. If he sees something he wants, he just buys it whether he can afford it or not. That all changes with marriage.
    Furthermore, his carefree spirit must give way to the increasing weight of responsibility marriage uniquely places on him. A woman thinks about economics occasionally, but usually with limited, short-range deliberation. The husband, however, must go to bed with the mental awareness that he is the supporter of his family. He awakens in the morning with the thought, I’d better do a good job today; my wife and kids are depending on me. Unless he learns early in life to commit his way to the Lord, that can be a heavy load to carry.
    A husband of weak character came home one evening and announced to his wife, “I’m moving out tonight; I don’t want to be married any more.” Our investigation revealed that he was not interested in anyone else, but he confessed, “I’d rather spend my evenings working on my racing car than on a second job to support a family.” His wife admitted that their physical relationship had been minimal and that she had never shown any appreciation for the sacrifices he had made for the family. Realizing that her indifference may have contributed to his dissatisfaction and irritation, she pleaded with him, “Give me another chance, and I’ll prove to you that marriage is worth whatever sacrifices we both have to make.” Some women get that second chance and prove it—this one didn’t. The husband went his own selfish way into irresponsibility, and both remained miserable.
    5. It provides life’s most exciting experience. The titanic emotional and physical explosion that culminates the act of marriage for the husband is easily the most exciting experience he ever enjoys, at least on a repeatable basis. At that moment all other thoughts are obliterated from his mind; every gland and organ of his body seems to reach a fevered pitch. He feels as if his blood pressure and temperature soar nearly to the point of losing control. By this time his breathing accelerates and he groans in ecstasy as the pressure breaks forth with the release of semen into the object of his love. Words are inadequate to describe this fantastic experience. Although the aggressive nature of men finds them engaging in various exciting activities (we know ski jumpers, motorcycle racers, jet pilots, sky divers, and pro football players), they all agree that lovemaking heads the list.
    A heart patient provided the best description that we have heard of what the act of marriage means to a man. Warned by his doctor that any unnecessary physical exertion could kill him, he continued love relations with his wife. At times he endured a body-rending experience of shock afterward—his heart palpitating, his face losing its color, and his extremities turning cold and clammy. Sometimes it took one or two hours before he could even get off the bed. When I suggested he might kill himself some