Never Be Lied to Again Read Online Free PDF
Author: David J. Lieberman
and his rate of speech accelerated. Grammar and syntax may be off as well, with poor sentence structure and misspoken words likely to occur.
When Sarah professed her love for her fiance, she would tell him how much she cared for him. And he would reply in a barely audible voice, simply repeating her words back to her. This didn't seem like a big deal until she started putting a few other things together. Instinctively we know that when a person responds like Sarah's ex, something is missing. And that something is often the truth.
C L U E 25
Questions and Statements Shouldn't
Sound Alike
Asking a question and making a statement have two distinct speaking styles. When a person asks a question—"What are you doing?"—his head comes up at the end—on the ing in doing. The eyes, too, will open wider at the last part of a question.
How is this useful? Suppose you get an answer that is worded like a statement but styled like a question. This indicates that the person is unsure of his statement and is looking for confirmation from you. If you ask someone a question and he says with all certainty, "XYZ," but his voice, head, and eyes lift at the end of their statement, then his conviction is not as strong as he is leading you to believe.
S U M M A R Y
• Deceitful responses to questions regarding beliefs and attitudes take longer to think up.
• Watch out for reactions that are all out of proportion to the question.
• The person who is lying may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous and
inexpressive voice. Words may be garbled, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other words, his sentences will likely be muddled.
• Statements sound an awful lot like questions, indicating that he's seeking reassurance.
S E C T I O N 6
P S Y C H O L O G I C A L P R O F I L E
These clues concern how a liar thinks and what elements are usually missing from a story that's fictitious.
C L U E 26
He's Got Cheating on His Mind
How people see the world is often a reflection of how they see themselves. If they think that the world is just a cesspool of lies and deceit, then they themselves may be full of lies and deceit. Watch out for those people who are always telling you just how corrupt the rest of the world is. As the saying goes, "It takes one to know one."
More specifically, if someone out of the blue with no real evidence accuses you of lying, ask yourself, "Why is he so paranoid?" In psychological terms this is what is referred to as projection. That's why the con artist is the first one to accuse another of cheating. If you're constantly being questioned about your motives or activities, this should send off bells in your mind. How often do we hear of a jealous boyfriend who constantly accuses his girlfriend of cheating on him only to have her find out later that he's guilty of everything he's been accusing her of doing?
Also, if he is always asking you if you believe him, then beware. Just as the clinically paranoid person feels that everyone can see right through him, this person questions the integrity of his facade. If your response gives no real indication of your thoughts, someone who is deceitful may respond with something like "You don't believe me, do you?" Here's a good rule of thumb: most people who tell the truth expect to be believed.
C L U E 27
The Single Guy
Is the focus of the individual whose veracity you're trying to assess internal or external? Let's say a single man walks into a bar hoping to meet a woman. If he considers himself to be attractive and a good catch, then his focus would be on what the women in the bar look like. If he considers himself to be unattractive, then he would be more concerned with how he appears to them. In other words, his focus shifts depending upon his level of confidence.
When a person has confidence in his words, he's more interested in your understanding him and less interested in how he appears to you. This is a subtle clue, but we can see examples of this
When Sarah professed her love for her fiance, she would tell him how much she cared for him. And he would reply in a barely audible voice, simply repeating her words back to her. This didn't seem like a big deal until she started putting a few other things together. Instinctively we know that when a person responds like Sarah's ex, something is missing. And that something is often the truth.
C L U E 25
Questions and Statements Shouldn't
Sound Alike
Asking a question and making a statement have two distinct speaking styles. When a person asks a question—"What are you doing?"—his head comes up at the end—on the ing in doing. The eyes, too, will open wider at the last part of a question.
How is this useful? Suppose you get an answer that is worded like a statement but styled like a question. This indicates that the person is unsure of his statement and is looking for confirmation from you. If you ask someone a question and he says with all certainty, "XYZ," but his voice, head, and eyes lift at the end of their statement, then his conviction is not as strong as he is leading you to believe.
S U M M A R Y
• Deceitful responses to questions regarding beliefs and attitudes take longer to think up.
• Watch out for reactions that are all out of proportion to the question.
• The person who is lying may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous and
inexpressive voice. Words may be garbled, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other words, his sentences will likely be muddled.
• Statements sound an awful lot like questions, indicating that he's seeking reassurance.
S E C T I O N 6
P S Y C H O L O G I C A L P R O F I L E
These clues concern how a liar thinks and what elements are usually missing from a story that's fictitious.
C L U E 26
He's Got Cheating on His Mind
How people see the world is often a reflection of how they see themselves. If they think that the world is just a cesspool of lies and deceit, then they themselves may be full of lies and deceit. Watch out for those people who are always telling you just how corrupt the rest of the world is. As the saying goes, "It takes one to know one."
More specifically, if someone out of the blue with no real evidence accuses you of lying, ask yourself, "Why is he so paranoid?" In psychological terms this is what is referred to as projection. That's why the con artist is the first one to accuse another of cheating. If you're constantly being questioned about your motives or activities, this should send off bells in your mind. How often do we hear of a jealous boyfriend who constantly accuses his girlfriend of cheating on him only to have her find out later that he's guilty of everything he's been accusing her of doing?
Also, if he is always asking you if you believe him, then beware. Just as the clinically paranoid person feels that everyone can see right through him, this person questions the integrity of his facade. If your response gives no real indication of your thoughts, someone who is deceitful may respond with something like "You don't believe me, do you?" Here's a good rule of thumb: most people who tell the truth expect to be believed.
C L U E 27
The Single Guy
Is the focus of the individual whose veracity you're trying to assess internal or external? Let's say a single man walks into a bar hoping to meet a woman. If he considers himself to be attractive and a good catch, then his focus would be on what the women in the bar look like. If he considers himself to be unattractive, then he would be more concerned with how he appears to them. In other words, his focus shifts depending upon his level of confidence.
When a person has confidence in his words, he's more interested in your understanding him and less interested in how he appears to you. This is a subtle clue, but we can see examples of this
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