Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! Read Online Free PDF Page A

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    While it's not your fault, or anyone else's, that you've been operating on some erroneous information about relationships that's been passed down since the beginning of time, it's now your responsibility to step up and use what works. As Maya Angelou says, "Now you know better, so you do better."
Investigate Your Thinking Problem
     
    The first step in kicking a drinking problem is to admit you have one. Well, most women, myself included, have some form of a "thinking" problem—especially when it comes to men and relationships. We think excessively, and much of our thinking is repetitive, illusory, and downright toxic. So the first step in kicking our thinking problem is to admit that we have one.
    It has been said that humans have approximately fifty to sixty thousand thoughts per day and 95 percent of those thoughts are the same ones we had yesterday. This means that unconsciously, we're all feeding ourselves the same inaccurate information over and over again. No wonder nothing ever seems to change.
    The way out is through awareness. Be willing to investigate how your mind and belief system are currently configuredaround men and relationships. Take a look at what you believe and why you believe it in the first place. Ask yourself, "Who put that thought there? Who said so? Is it serving me?" Regarding the last question, my guess is that, for the most part, it's not.
    Now let's investigate what you know about relationships. As we discovered earlier with my "hot potatoes" lyrics, much of what we believe to be true is simply an old collection of thoughts put together by a younger, less experienced version of ourselves.
    When it comes to men and relationships, our ideas are often put in place during an upsetting situation, such as a breakup. Ideas like:
I can't trust men.
I'm not pretty/skinny/talented/funny enough.
All men cheat.
Relationships are hard work.
I'll never find someone.
    It's during times of disappointment that we make decisions in our minds that limit what is possible for us in the future. The problem is that we often forget those decisions were made, yet as we move forward in time, those old decisions hold us back from feeling fully alive and capable of truly connecting in our relationships.
    Much like an old computer, our minds have outdated software. Investigating our thinking problem is akin to gettinga much-needed software upgrade. As we look, we'll see that the information our minds contain—especially about men and relationships—is not only outdated but also completely contradictory to what we say we want now. See for yourself. Quickly complete the following sentences:
    Love is __________________________________.
    Good men are _____________________________.
    I'll bet you had some automatic responses, like "blind" and "hard to find." Even if we don't believe those statements to be true, our minds, like the autofill function on computers, automatically fill in the blanks based on information we've put there or heard before. If you want to make every man want you, you've got to bring awareness to your thinking problem and get clean. Remaining unaware that you are holding on to old ideas only keeps you stuck in the past and out of the present, where more fulfilling and expansive relationship possibilities exist.
Being Irresistible Requires Personal Responsibility
     
    Personal responsibility means being accountable for the results that do or do not show up in your life. More specifically, responsibility means you have the ability to respond to your life instead of automatically react to it. Many of us behave like robots, mechanically acting out habitual thought patterns of self-pity, overwhelming resentment, and wishful thinking. Rather than discovering who we are now or who we are with now, we re-act, or act again, based on how we reacted to similar events in our past.
     
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Irresistible Action Challenge
     
    What are some ideas about love, men, and relationships you hold as "the truth"? What