Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! Read Online Free PDF

types of things were you told by family and friends? What old decisions about men or relationships have you made during an upsetting experience? Take a few minutes and write down what you believe to be "the truth."
    Now look at your first "truth" and answer the following questions. Then go back and review the questions for each old "truth" you wrote down. How old were you when you first had that idea? Is it serving you now? How willing are you to kick your thinking problem and reclaim your irresistibility?
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    Women often unleash old anger and resentment from the past on people they are currently dating. This commonly includes grievances held against former boyfriends, husbands, and bosses and, particularly, gripes with Dad.
    This automatic behavior kills our irresistibility. It is also why many women keep having the same relationships over and over again with different men. They keep re-acting out of old, robotic habits and repeatedly produce similar, undesirable results with every man they meet. Rather than taking responsibility and investigating how they operate to see what they are doing (or not doing), they find it easier to place the blame on the "bad man" or on "bad luck."
    Being personally responsible allows you to dissolve old programming and start responding to your life appropriately rather than mechanically re-acting like you did in the past. This is an incredibly exciting place to live. With personal responsibility, you gain a tremendous amount of control in your life. You can free yourself from cyclical life patterns and proactively impact the quality and existence of your relationships.
    The first step in personal responsibility is to bring awareness to how you operate in your life. This means being investigative, observant, and nonjudgmental. My good friends Ariel and Shya Kane, internationally acclaimed authors and seminar leaders, teach an easy and effective way to do this: pretend you're an anthropologist studying a culture of one—you.
    The Kanes encourage an anthropological approach to life. Anthropologists simply note what is. They look and observe without adding commentary or judgment. For example, an anthropologist would never say, "Those crazysavages perform ridiculous fire dances at ungodly hours." An anthropologist would simply jot down, "The indigenous people perform fire rituals at 3:00 A.M. "
    If you want to be irresistibly attractive, you have to observe yourself in this same nonjudgmental way. Simply notice what you do. When you judge, berate, criticize, complain, or otherwise add commentary to your self-observations, you actually cement undesirable behaviors in place.
    The challenge, of course, is that our minds are automatic judgment machines. They instantly evaluate everything we do as either good or bad, right or wrong. Thankfully, this isn't a problem. The trick is to simply notice the judgment and then not judge yourself for judging yourself. And if that doesn't work (you continue to judge yourself for judging yourself) take one step out and don't judge yourself for judging yourself for judging yourself. At some point, you'll reach a state of neutrality.
    There's a law in physics that states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. In other words, what we resist persists. Judging, berating, criticizing, and complaining are all forms of resisting. They are nonneutral statements that act like Krazy Glue and stick your unwanted behavioral patterns to you. When you simply notice what you do instead of judge or criticize yourself, a magical transformation takes place instantly. You will no longer be run by the habitual behaviors that kill your irresistibilityand cause relationship mischief. This is because what you nonjudgmentally look at disappears.
    Looking at something without judging it is neutral and liberating. If you nonjudgmentally observe a behavior, you will have introduced choice into the equation. In that moment, you are free (if you so choose) to stop