heartÂbreak.
The top five Real Housewives of New Jersey feuds
  1.  Teresa v. me over what she said in her cookbook. You all know how that ended up.
  2.  Danielle v. Teresa at the season-two reunion. That was really unpleasant and intense.
  3.  Danielle v. me at the season-one reunion. That was legendary, but I couldnât tolerate what she was doing to my sister.
  4.  Jacqueline not turning up to the season-three reunion because of Teresaâs behavior. It was awful to watch Jacqueline so distraught.
  5.  Teresa v. everyone in season four. We all wanted her to be accountable for what she told the press.
I went through some stinging betrayals on this show. They were devastating to go through in my life and it was devastating to watch them on TV. Housewives is not scripted, itâs not set up. The things you watch on TV actually happened in my real life and I have to deal with them long after the cameras stop rolling.
Itâs not that I donât like being on the show. Itâs just that there are parts that are very hard at times. But I am loyal to the show, I signed up for it, and I honor my commitments. Loyalty is important to me. It means the world to me that your loyalty to my TV show has brought you to my book, and youâve read this far. When I hear from a viewer that Iâve helped her in a positive way, it lets me know that being loyal to myself is the most important thing I can do.
The top ten signs itâs time to break up with a friend
  1.  When you lose trust in that person, and your gut reacts differently to them.
  2.  When you see that there is a change in their behavioral pattern that youâre not comfortable with.
  3.  When the negatives outweigh the positives.
  4.  When youâre arguing more than agreeing with them.
  5.  When you find yourself not thinking of that person when something good happens and you want to share itâthat personâs not even on your radar.
  6.  When you need to talk, theyâre not the one you think of.
  7.  When youâre not comfortable in their presence.
  8.  When communication breaks down on either side.
  9.  When you try to converse and thereâs no common ground.
10.  When you hear that they are bitching about you behind your back.
BEHIND THE SCENES
In the early days, weâd all bring our jewelry to the reunion-show taping and other public tapings. Weâd share our jewelry with one another in the green room. It was fun and it helped break the tension before we went onto the set. In the first-season reunion, Teresa is wearing my necklace. Jacqueline and I still do this, but we have so many newcomers in the cast, we just donât share as much. I still bring extra jewelry in case one of them needs it. Better to be safe than sorry!
Breakfast, lunch, or dinner:
pick one meal a day to
have with your family.
Itâs so important to have a meal with your family every day. Thatâs the time you reconnect. Put your BlackBerry down, put your iPad down, and give your family your undivided attention.
I know weâre all busy these days, so Iâm not talking about a formal sit-down dinner at the table. You can eat around the kitchen island, you can stand or you can sit, you can even go to McDonaldâs. The main thing is that at least one meal a day isnât rushed, or eaten on the go. You take the time out of your day and you connect with whoever is around. Itâs about a shared experience thatâs fun and pleasurable for everyone.
Al worked so much that he was never home for dinner with us. There was a time when for a few months he would try to make it home early, but it just made his day crazier. So the solution was for me to take the kids down to The Brownstone and weâd eat dinner at his desk. A couple