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out the discipline?
    A) He does
    B) She does
    C) We take turns
    D) We have set punishments
     
    You should score your answers separately. You can compare them to see if you have different ideas about who is in charge. First, count the number of A's, B's, C's and D's you have.
    The more “A”s you have the more of a male lead relationship you have. Take heart, it's okay, there is nothing wrong with that. It may not be what you really want, but we will get to that later. If all of your answers were “A”s, then you have a male led Dictatorship. Anything less and you are probably in a Shipboard relationship.
    The more times you selected “B” as an answer, the more you lean toward a female led relationship. Again, nothing to worry about. This is the female oriented relationship indicator. If all you answers were “B”s, then you live in a female led Dictatorship. But if even a few of them are something else, you probably live in a Shipboard relationship.
    If the majority of your answers were “C”s then you probably have a Democratic type of relationship combined with a Co-op style. However, depending on how many “A”s and “B”s you have, you may lean more toward a Shipboard style of rule.
    If all of your answers were “D”s, then obviously, you are in the Co-op style of relationship. That means you at least attempt to share all responsibilities equally. However, it is rare to find a successful true Co-op relationship. Odds are, at least some of your answers falls into another category.
    You probably have a combination of answers and, therefore, you have a combination of styles you use in your relationship. This is normal. The extremes are a true Co-op at one end of the scale and a true Dictatorship on the other.
    Your ideal relationship, most likely, lies somewhere in between these two extremes. Almost everyone's does. You might have a combination of any two styles in your relationship. I can't say that is a bad thing, but it means that you have made no formal declaration (or agreement) of who is charge of what. Most people don't.
    No matter what type or style of leadership you have in your relationship, you really should sit down and hammer out an agreement that covers all the important aspects of your relationship. For example: Your agreement should include such things as how certain decisions will be made. Will they be one partner's responsibility, or will you negotiate things? Who gets to initiate sex and when? What are your goals as a couple? If you both strongly disagree, how will you solve the problem? All these things and more should be put into an agreement (or contract) and tested for a period of time to see what works and what needs to be changed. We will get to agreements later on. Since this book is about female led relationships, we will proceed as if that is what you really want. But first, there are a couple more questionnaires in the next chapter you will need to complete so that you know where you stand, and what you really want from it.
    Before my husband and I made the switch to an FLR, we actually did take a quiz something like the one in this chapter. We knew, for example, that we wanted to move out of a male led relationship into something more female led. We took the quiz to see exactly where we were starting from, so that we would have a better idea of how to get where we wanted to go.
    Knowing exactly what type of relationship you have before you make any major changes can be very beneficial. It can help you in plotting a course to your final destination. Whether you are making only slight changes, such as just a change in who controls your sexual time together, or you are planning a major swap of responsibilities, it is always good to know where you are starting from. It also helps when you want to measure your accomplishments and progress toward that goal. So don't skip the quiz. Do it for your future.
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    Chapter 6 : What Do You Want?
     
    Any time you enter into an