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experience though. It was my first introduction into the male mind and I learned to forever avoid going over random boys’ houses.
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    I gave her a call three weeks later. I wasn't in San Francisco anymore, but I was willing to go back to meet her. I don't think she appreciated that very much so I've learned that one of the hardest things for a guy is knowing when to call back afterwards if you want to hook up again. I can say that three weeks is definitely too long.
Gary, 26
Brissie, Australia
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    THE HETEROSEXUAL LITMUS TEST
Betsy, 19

I like guys and girls but I was trying to decide which I liked more. I was kind of more into girls but I came from a real Mormon family. They kind of know I’m gay now but it’s unspoken. It’s not admitted. So I was going to give it one last shot to see if I could settle down with a guy before I dated girls full-time and cause a family upheaval. Basically I had sex with a guy to find out how straight or not I was, and it helped me figure out that I wasn’t.
I met this guy at a random party. I was kind of into him, kind of not, and we started dating casually. One night we go to this concert and he has some ecstasy so we eat a bunch of X. We spend all night rolling together. Next morning we woke up and I thought, "OK. What the fuck? Let’s see how this works." I tried and I didn’t get off. We dated for another four weeks and I just never got into it.
Matt always wanted to have sex in the morning. It was hard to go through because I could see him and all his manliness and it bothered me. I couldn’t turn off the lights and pretend he was a girl. He ended up dumping me and I was upset for about two days and then felt relieved because I was free to date women.
I did like Matt; I cared about him as a person. He was awesome and we had a lot in common. He was a pianist and I play the piano too. I fell in love with the boy on an emotional and intellectual level. Physically… the sex was not as enjoyable as it should be.
The whole complex of losing your virginity after growing up in a Mormon household is built up a lot. Mormons actually call premarital sex the worst sin second to murder. So in the hierarchy of sin, you can murder someone and then the next worst thing you can do after that is have sex outside of marriage. So yeah, it’s a huge deal. After I lost it, it didn’t seem like a big deal at all. It helped me figure out what sex is really about. Like sex can’t be about the relationship or about getting them to like you. Sex has to be about how you feel about them. And it appears I can only feel that way about other girls.
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    I'm glad it wasn't an American Pie-esque exchange of, "I love you" for having sex. I somehow managed to say, "I love you" a few weeks after having sex. I wouldn't have minded saying, "I love you" earlier; it was just very important to me that those two events not happen at the same time, because I felt like it would have been some sort of bizarre prostitution of exchanging one thing for the other.
Drew, 21
Metuchen, NJ
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    THE MOVE
Roy, 44

I was away on holiday with my brother and his friends in Mallorca on a two-week package tour. On the second night there I left a disco with this English girl. I literally just ended up with her. She pulled me into a field, pulled my trousers down and gave me a blowjob. Then she pulled me on top and I rid’ her.
The one thing I remember is she tickled my balls, which was unbelievable... the balls. That was just something else, you never would have expected that.
She was English, I’m Irish. She was 17 and I was 15. I went back home to my girlfriend after that and I was a different man. I was ready for sex. We never traded numbers or nothing, it was just all about the riding. It was excellent. I’m actually embarrassed that I don’t know her name. But she was short with blonde hair. She wasn’t great looking but she was all right looking. She was nice and funny and nice to talk to. And she tickled my