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don’t respect you, and they make that clear in their daily treatment of you. If that’s the situation you find yourself in, read on. You don’t have to put up with such behavior. You shouldn’t put up with such behavior. God almighty did not put you on this earth to be a doormat. You are a worthy, valuable human being. You’ll find the next chapter very helpful in what you should do next to combat this type of behavior in your home, because it has to stop.
    But the average husband wants to please you; he just doesn’t know how. Of course you’re better at a lot of things, but does that mean you shouldn’t allow him to try? For example, I saw a father who, for the first time, diapered his 1-year-old son. As the child toddled off down the hallway, the diaper began its slow slide down to the carpet until the child, naked as a jaybird, began to run gleefully down the hallway, right into his mama’s arms. You know what that wife did? She looked at her husband, wiggled her eyebrows, swept the child up with a laugh, and said, “Not so fast, big boy. Your daddy’s ready to give your bottom another shot.” And as that wife transferred that bare-bottomed child to her husband, she whispered in her husband’s ear, “That was a great first try. I’d sure love to see your bare bottom later. Think we can plan on that?”
    Now that’s the smart wife. What did she do? She respected her husband’s efforts to help (as inefficient as they were) and gave him the promise of reward for those efforts. Do you think that husband will be eager to help her with anything else that needs getting done? You bet. And as he does it, he’ll be smiling ear to ear, thinking, Wow. What a woman. And she chose me.
    Do you think that man will find himself being turned on by a co-worker who gives him a nice compliment? Nah. He’ll just say a quick thanks and brush on by, because he can’t wait to get home to his woman.
    Right about now, some of you are saying, “Okay, Dr. Leman, stop right there. Everything you’re saying so far has to do with what I have to do to get a new husband by Friday. So what about my husband? Doesn’t he need to do his share of work in the marriage?”
    Yes, he sure does. But here’s the catch: your husband won’t do his part until you do yours. That’s because it’s too risky for him, as a male, to try to do something when he doesn’t know if it will be accepted.
    Do you want the kind of husband who will listen patiently as you tell him about the idiots at work who are driving you up the wall? Do you want to be able to tell him anything and know that he'll understand? That he's there for you? When you talk to your husband, most of the time you don't really want him to solve your problem, do you? After all, you're a smart woman. You can figure it out. Most likely you know what you want to do already. But there's something wonderful about being able to share with your husband your thoughts and feelings, getting a warm hug of comfort, and hearing, "I'm sorry. That must be hard. I understand. Anything I can do to help you right now?"
    Do you know how hard—and unmale-like—that is for a man? It’s a male’s first inclination to problem solve, to say to you when being presented with a problem, “Okay, here’s what you should do . . .” and begin to tick off three immediate things you should act on. But respect is about understanding the other person, knowing how they tick (and what ticks them off), and what they’re really asking for when they tell you about a situation.
    But guess what? Your husband isn’t as sensory oriented as you are, as studies show. That means he needs you to help interpret situations for him. He needs you to tell him, “Honey, I want to tell you about something that happened today with X. I don’t need you to solve it for me, I just need you to listen.”
    You know what your husband will do? He’ll perk up. He’ll listen. You’ve just told him there’s a problem and whom it’s