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I also started to straddle Mamaâs rules concerning boys. In tenth grade I got a new boyfriend, David, and we liked each other a lot. During this time my mother, who had always told me not to get pregnant, tried to be close to me. She started talking to me about men. I remember that sheâd warn me, âThe ones you donât love will love you, and the ones you love wonât love you.â She also started talking about the first time Iâd have sex.
âAngela, I want to know. I want to be there,â sheâd say to me.
âReally, Maâphysically?â
âNo, not physically. But I want to be there for you.â
The morning after I lost my virginity I told my mother about it.
âMa, I did it,â I said while we were at the breakfast table.
âYou had sexual intercourse! With who, David?â
âYeah.â
âWhy? Why? â she demanded. âDid he threaten to break up with you?â
â No, Mama!â
âCome on, letâs go for a ride.â
âMa, can I come?â Dânette asked.
âNo, Dânette, you stay home,â my mother told my little sister.
Then we drove around and she talked to me for what must have been seven or eight hoursâuntil I was blue in the face. All that openness up front, then after it happened, âOh, no!â
After that I decided having sex was not worth braving my motherâs tirades. I thought, âForget this. Iâll wait and have sex when I go to college!â
In eleventh grade there was a little college boy who liked me. Iâd tell my mother that I had to go to rehearsal for a play I was in. Iâd go to rehearsal and do my four lines then my boyfriend would pick me up. Weâd go back to his dorm room and start kissing, kissing and hugging and rubbing and kissing. Oh, I could kiss like crazy, but there was no way I was having sex! Each night it would be kiss, kiss, hug, hug, rub, rub and then, âStop! Take me home.â This went on for night after night. The young man was nice. He wouldnât push and he always took me home when I asked him to.
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When I was in high school, I also participated in Upward Bound, an academic and cultural enrichment program for underprivileged kids. We didnât see ourselves as underprivileged. In fact, in St. Peteâs we were the cool kids. David Davidson was captain of the football team and very smart. He wanted to be a lawyer. Kenny Leon had a mom and a stepdaddy and he was in the program. Today heâs a Broadway director. He directed the version of A Raisin in the Sun with P. Diddy in it. In Upward Bound, I got to meet kids from around the city and different high schools. We did African studies, little plays, read poetry,got tutoredâthat kind of thing. When I was fifteen, George Langhorne, the programâs director, informed me that he had handpicked and submitted me for a special program. I was being invited to attend the Presidential Classroom for Young Americans. It was supposed to be a great honor, and it was a total surprise! Mama and Miss Mattie got my wardrobe together, bought me a coat and sent me up to Washington, D.C. I lived in a fancy hotel room for a week with three white kids from around the country and around the world. I had never been away on my own, I had never stayed in a hotel and, other than going to North Carolina, I had never really gone anywhere. It was a rite of passage of sorts.
The Presidential Classroom program was about government, government, government. âWhen thereâs a war, inflation goes up, down or whateverâ¦.â âI have a question, Mr. Senatorâ¦.â Political, political. Well, I didnât have any questions. I was just sitting there thinking, What the heck are we talking about? This is boring. Are we gonna see some monuments? Then weâd go look at monuments. I took a lot of pictures. Later, I showed them to Mama, who has a way of describing