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self-reliance, but by the deep wisdom-flow of love, which is alive as you and at the heart of all beings. You are fulfilled neither by a man’s attention nor by taking care of yourself, but by opening as love, feeling the heart of everyone, offering your heart open so love can move you as it will, offering your life as a gift of love to all, including your chosen man.
    All the moments of your life—making a business deal, caring for your children, arguing with your lover—can be a dance of love’s emergence, anopportunity for opening your heart and offering your life to flow open as love’s wisdom, love’s power, and love’s indestructible vulnerability.
    To live with an open heart and body moved by love is your only option if you want to fulfill your deepest desire—to receive and give love’s most full bliss—with or without a man.

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Your Sexual Essence

    I have chosen you as my lover for many reasons. But I am most compelled by the attraction I feel for your feminine heart. I appreciate many of your qualities such as your intelligence, your sense of humor, and your insight—but I also appreciate those things in my close friends, my brothers and sisters, even my colleagues at work.

    Your special gift to me is the unique quality of the feminine love you offer. Your feminine essence fills my life with a love that is so intimate and tender, my heart opens at your sight. I understand there is a lot more to you, but you are my chosen lover—rather than just my friend—because the ambrosial light of your feminine essence fills my heart and brightens my world with beauty, inspiration, and the unending grace of love’s abundance.
    You embody both masculine and feminine qualities, although you may express them in different proportions at different times in your life.
    If you find it easy to navigate toward your goals but more difficult to dance in whole-body ecstasy, then your masculine qualities are probably more highly developed than your feminine.
    If you find it easy to flow while moving with sensual pleasure—while shopping, dancing, making love, and talking with friends—but more difficult to carry out long-term projects, then your feminine is probably more highly developed than your masculine.
    Each person can develop both masculine and feminine qualities within him or her. With your masculine, you can learn to direct your life with great clarity and discipline toward very specific goals as a way to offer your deepest heart’s gift to the world. With your feminine, you can learn to flow lovingly in the midst of chaos—a room full of playing children, a friend sobbing in emotional panic—offering your oceanic energy and fullness as a deep love-gift from your heart.
    Although you have both masculine and feminine qualities and gifts, at your core you have a unique sexual essence. Your sexual essence is your sexual identity. It has nothing to do with the gender of your body. Man or woman, your sexual essence is determined by what your heart identifies with most deeply: the unfolding drama of the ever-changing flow of love and dance of life’s light or the mission toward unchanging and eternal freedom of consciousness.
    Do you identify more with love’s ebb and flow in your heart or the adventure toward freedom? At the movies, do you cry more at love storiesor at films about justice and conquering all odds against an enemy to be free? Are you more moved by love’s drama or freedom’s mission?
    Which words of your lover turn you on more, sexually? Imagine that your lover says to you, “I trust you and your mission, and I will follow you anywhere.” Now imagine that he says, “I love you and cherish the beauty of light that I see in you, and I claim your deepest heart as mine, forever.”
    If you have a masculine sexual essence, then you are turned on by a lover who trusts your direction so much he is willing to surrender to your claim, submit ecstatically to your strength of penetrative love, and follow