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love, commanded open by love’s torrential flow, undulated by love’s boundless pleasure. Around your heart, he senses the “do not trespass” warning, and so he holds himself back from entering your life deeply.
    Few men are capable of entering a woman’s heart and opening her body to God’s bliss, but few women are capable of offering their heart and body to be claimed open in this way. Fear is the feeling of refusal. Fear is thefeeling of mistrust. Fear is the heart’s contraction that withdraws openness behind walls of protection. Fear is the act of unlove, the negation of love, the refusal to open and offer love’s openness as your gift. Anything less than a life of total loving is fear.
    Fear—the refusal to open as love—is the only reason your sexual life and relationship are less than God-blissful. Fear forms shells around your heart and closes your body so that love cannot move deeply into you, claiming you, opening you, allowing you to trust deeper than your sense of self. If you trusted and received love more deeply, you would naturally surrender open, alive as the most powerful force in the world: the devotional offering of love.
    Men are terrified of a woman’s depth of love and the energy that moves as a woman’s sexuality and emotions. And, at the same time, men want nothing more in this life than to merge completely with a woman’s devotional love and wild energy. Only as a man outgrows his fear can he handle a woman’s tremendous love-energy without running. And only such a man is worthy of your devotional offering in a committed intimacy.
    Most men can’t meet you fully. So, though your heart and body yearn to be ravished by real love, you bury your heart’s longing under a life of busyness, family, friends, and distractions. You learn to plod on and get things done. You learn to seal off from your own longing. You occupy yourself with chores and to-do lists. You focus on your financial goals, or perhaps you decide to give your life to serving a social cause or following a spiritual path. You spend time with your friends, enjoy travel, exercise and take care of yourself. And still, your heart yearns, whether you are alone or with a man who is not deeply claiming your heart.
    Just as you have chosen to guard your heart for fear of being hurt, the man you attract will have chosen to claim life more shallowly than his true depth. He drifts uncommitted to total love because he is afraid of losing what seems like his freedom.
    Your relationship won’t work because his freedom is false and your love is hidden; you are both afraid. You are unwilling to offer yourself completely without protection, so you attract a man without the capacity or willingness to claim you completely.
    A commitment to love requires opening beyond these fears. Your lover’s willingness to inhabit your life as his own, to feel your heart deeply and claim you open to love’s deepest bliss, must grow—just as your willingness must grow to offer your life and heart as love, even though you know you will be hurt and betrayed in the future.
    Even if you don’t have a lover in your life or if your lover doesn’t seem able to meet your heart with his full loving presence, you can learn to keep your heart open to the flow of love. Your heart may hurt, your heart may yearn for a deeper way to give and receive love with your man, but your heart-practice is to relax open, breathing and feeling in connection with your lover and all beings. At heart, everybody wants only to give and receive love.
    You can practice keeping your heart open for the sake of love’s fullness, even when your man hurts you, even when you are alone, even when the pain and yearning in your heart feel overwhelming. For the sake of love’s fullest flow, you can allow your heart to yearn open, deeply receiving and offering love without closing down to protect itself.
    Then, your life is moved not so much by your man’s needs nor by your own needs of