Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of Too Nice Read Online Free PDF

“superpowers.” Some Earth Angels have a superpower of invisibility, for instance. This means that they can slip in and out of places and situations relatively unnoticed. Of course, the downside to having an invisibility superpower is that you’re often ignored by waiters and waitresses, and even loved ones.
    What’s Your Superpower?
    Every Earth Angel has something amazing that he or she is good at. Here are a few examples of Earth Angel superpowers:
Healing
Manifesting
Breaking * or fixing electronics
Animal communication
Miraculous gardening abilities
Weather magic
Knowing instantly whether someone is being honest
Foreseeing the future
    There are many other superpowers, too. Spend time pondering what yours is. Observe yourself with others or out in nature and notice what comes very easily and magically to you. That’s your superpower!
    Your superpower is a skill that you brought from heaven to help with your life mission. For example, if you can easily hear the voices of animals talking, then your life purpose involves animal communication. If you have a talent for predicting or influencing the weather, your purpose involves protecting people from major storms.
    Taking Off Your Cape
    Even superheroes need a day off. As Earth Angels, we’re inordinately strong emotionally and physically. We’re used to being the helpers in relationships, and the ones who come to everyone’s rescue.
    But sometimes our superpowers can confuse us. We may say yes to every request for help, without first meditating on how that new duty will impact our already-full schedule.
    Even though you have broad shoulders and a big heart, your assertiveness training involves learning to say no, especially to unreasonable demands upon your time.
    After all, time is your greatest resource in putting your life purpose into action. For example, if you’re destined to become a healer in private practice and are intending to make this happen, you’ll need to devote many hours to your clients. That means that any hours spent doing an activity purely because of guilt, out of obligation, or because you were bullied into it will be time taken away from your clients. That time spent doing something meaningless could be better directed toward healing someone—or even saving his or her life.
    So if you’re reluctant to say no to time and energy drains, then do it for your clients!
    How to Stand Up for Yourself
    When confronted with any form of danger, every living creature defends itself. This is a hardwired response built into every physical being to guarantee its survival. So it’s okay to acknowledge to yourself that you have a defense mechanism.
    This doesn’t make you less spiritual or less angelic in any way. Again, think of warrior angels such as Archangel Michael with his sword and his armor, signifying that even the most peaceful angels have to sometimes go to battle. And there’s a feminine equivalent to Archangel Michael’s archetype within every woman. Research stories of strong warrior women, like Joan of Arc or the suffragettes.
    When someone says or does something that stirs a reaction in you, it’s very important to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings to yourself. Perhaps you notice that your stomach muscles tighten; you perspire; or you become flush with anger, rage, or even embarrassment.
    If at all possible, walk away from the situation, even if you have to excuse yourself to go to the restroom. This moment away helps calm down your physiological reactions. Otherwise, you may act impulsively and say things that you later regret.
    While you’re alone, have an honest conversation with yourself. Begin by noticing how you feel physically. Is your heart racing, is your breathing shallow, or are your thoughts explosive? Any of these reactions can show that the other person has triggered anxiety within you.
    This anxiety response is also called fight or flight . It’s an