pulses are
slowing and we are so comfortable together. 'Can I see you
again?' he wants to know.
I have been rather dreading this question. It would be
terribly easy for me to fall in love with him and I don't want
to be hurt. 'Why? Because I'm a good fuck?' I ask, not really
wanting to know.
'Because you are a lovely lady.' He is sincere – for the
moment.
'We'll see,' I prevaricate, thinking, it was great while it lasted,
and I'll make it last that little bit longer. 'I've booked the room
for the night.'
When I'm lonely now and wanting to feed a sexual fantasy I
remember this.
Reader, I married him!
We were together 25 years until he died in 2002.
T, age 47
Bisexual
Single, occasionally sexually active
High School diploma
State worker
Massachusetts, USA
It takes a man to know what he's doing to get me to peak to
orgasm as opposed to when I was younger, when all it took
was a touch. I prefer passion versus just jumping into sex right
away. I like to be kissed and touched and hugged. My favourite
position is on top with a good hard strong penis. I like to ride.
What holds me back is not being able to find a man who feels
the same way. They all seem to be selfish and quick, or they
just don't know how. The one or two that knew how are already
taken (married). That's a turn-off after a while. What turns me
on is being with an attractive female, making love to her the
way I want to be made love to. Also feeling the hard body of
a good-looking man moving all over me and letting me ride
him to orgasm. I do wish I knew how to approach females (I'm
in the closet). I don't know how to go about finding females
that are bi or gay. I'd very much like to explore that avenue
now. I've only been with a woman twice in my life and I very
much enjoyed it. I find myself looking at attractive females. I
fantasise about what it would be like to have sex with them
and what I'd like to do to them – how I'd hold them or kiss
them and where, how I'd like to bring them to orgasm.
Naja, age 37
Heterosexual
Celibate
No children
Some college
Customer Service Representative
Michigan, USA
I like men who are self-confident, but not condescending. A
confident man tends to be a great lover. I have always loved
books and words. I love to have a man talk/whisper in my ear
or neck. I fantasise several times a day. Since I am in a current
dry spell, my fantasy is an oldie but goodie. I would just like
to have my brains screwed out. Very little talking or politeness
is involved. Just fucking.
Karen, age 33
Heterosexual
Live-in relationship/marriage
Children
Health Advisor/University student
Southeast England, UK
Sexy men turn me on. For me, sexy is a brilliant mind, dry wit,
relaxed and easygoing, beautiful expressive eyes, a toned body,
long fingers, a smile, etc., etc. No one man has to possess all
these qualities, one or more will do. What is sexy about the
above list is the person behind them – basically a man who's
mysterious, mischievous and self-confident.
In my earlier years my sexual imagination was based purely
on how a man looked – i.e., he must be good-looking. Now I
want to look beyond what I see. My sexual imagination is
sparked by curiosity. I can now look at a man on the train with
a frazzled expression over his laptop and think, 'I wonder how
he looks in the throes of passion or when he's just come?' I
then want to dig deeper to find out what makes him laugh
out loud. A few moments later I've created a complete fantasy,
ending with him sliding a hand up my skirt and a quick hot
fuck in the (train) toilets. Interesting to note that, early on, the
men in my fantasies all looked the same – that is, they were
black men with big dicks. That's pretty much how it was in
reality, so I limited myself. Now I go there mentally with any
man with an average dick, because now it's more about the
sexual tension between the characters, how he uses his dick
and the foreplay involved.
My favourite fantasy is a late evening encounter at the