understood how that oddball drink became lumped in with Christmas foods, but then, thereâs also bread pudding and fruit cake. Sometimes, I just go with the flow and add nutmeg. You canât let Christmas traditions overrun your lifeâespecially when those traditions include hooking a man on your candy cane.
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T hat afternoon, as I sat across the table from yet another shiny-faced prodigy, I longed for a pretzel stick or a lollipop or a flaming sword to take away the yearning for a cigarette, the yearning for a reason to escape this meeting and hang outside the door of Oscarâs while collecting my thoughts.
Instead, I sat in a booth facing my lovely Japanese subject, Yoshiko Abe, and her mother, both of whom had bowed when I introduced myself. Sitting across from them might have been a mistake, as it was the position of confrontation. In deference, Yoshiko and Mrs. Abe kept their eyes averted from mine. Iâd done interviews like this countless times, and I wasnât looking forward to an hour of trying to extract personal information from a woman and child who for cultural reasons could not allow me to make a connection.
âWould you like to order?â I offered.
Yoshiko lifted the menu politely, her long fingers elegant against the laminated card. âOh, I donât know.â She turned to her mother and said something in Japanese. The mom answered back in Japanese, pointing to various items on the menu.
Trying to appear attentive, I waited for the answer.
Most foreign musicians pose a challenge, especially the young ones. There is the language barrier, of course, though most of my musicians speak English and I am fluent in French. These brilliant children also tend to focus exclusively on their craft with a level of discipline unmatched in the United States. Consequently, prodigies like Yoshiko often have no lives beyond their musical aspirations.
âMy mother,â Yoshiko said, âshe would like to try the prime rib very much, but she worries that she had a very large lunch.â
Was that a yes or a no? I wiggled my toes in my boots, wishing her mother would make up her mind. âThe prime rib is delicious,â I said. âAnd how about you? Something to eat?â
âOh, I donât know.â Shyly, Yoshiko lowered her head to the menu once again.
I felt annoyed by their passive aggression and in no mood for a dance of semantics. Then I recalled that the Japanese language does not include a polite word for âno.â
âHow about if I order some appetizers that we can share?â I suggested. âThe sampler platter?â
Yoshiko translated and Mom nodded. âYes,â the girl said, âthat would be very nice.â
With that taken care of, I told Yoshiko that I had been researching her accomplishments. I knew that she had begun studying violin at the age of two, had performed her first concerto when she was just five, and had been touring since sheâd turned eight. Last year, at the age of fifteen, she was the youngest violinist to win the Irving M. Klein String Competition. I asked how that accomplishment had changed her life, and Yoshiko shrugged.
âNot much different,â she said. âSame old, same old.â
âWhat do you do when youâre not playing the violin?â I asked. âDo you have any hobbies? Ways to relieve stress?â
âI travel on tour,â she said, skittering over my question. âFrom the concert to the hotel. I plug in my laptop, then must do homework and e-mail it to my teachers.â
Nose to the grindstone, I thought with a smile. âAnd how about fun? What do you do for fun?â
âI have my violin,â she said, her eyes bright. âA del Gesus. Itâs fantastic.â
If I was going to dig through to her favorite TV show or a secret passion for pistachios, I was going to need a new angle. âWhatâs your favorite snack?â
She squinted.
Janwillem van de Wetering