each other again, but somehow we made it work,â she says.
Anita Webb says she realized her son was going to marry Sue the first time she saw them together. âThey were in the dining room sitting near this big window,â she says. âShewas a sweet girl, very nice, and just sixteen at the time. He fell for her. They were always together. When we moved to Kentucky, I figured heâd get over it. But they kept communicating. The funny thing is, she would write him and he would take a red pen and correct her letters. Iâd say âGary, you canât do that.â But she put up with him. I couldnât believe it. I would have ditched him right away. But he was funny that way. Very strange.â
More than thirty years later, Sue still has those letters, including one from July 11,1974. âYour mistakes are getting fewer, thanks to my brilliant tutelage,â Webb wrote. âHere they are: âSorry I havenât written soonerâ should read âSorry I didnât write sooner.â The tense in your sentence doesnât agree.â After pointing out several other grammatical errors, Webb added, ââAlex finally took Pam out from the bankâ doesnât make any sense. (By the way, âsenseâ is not spelled âsince.â) Did he take her out from the bank or out for a date? (I knew what you meant but grammatically, itâs wrong.)â
Webb then pointed out that âa lotâ is not one word, âto often,â is spelled âtoo often,â and âNo, you better not,â should read, âNo, youâd better not.â âDonât get me wrong,â he added. âIâm glad to get your letters and I want one a day if you manage. Well, enough corrections; letâs get to the meat of your article.â
According to Sue, those corrections, annoying as they were, also showed that her boyfriend couldnât stop thinking about her. Halfway through one of his letters to Sue, in fact, he realized he was in love. âOh, shit,â he wrote. âFor once, I canât even think of the words to tell you. This is the first time words have ever failed me. Words were created byman to tell of happenings and not of inner feelings. They donât describe the emotions of the . . . deepest emotions I feel. And they shouldnât. What I feel for you is too delicate to be mauled by unwieldy words. A touch, a look, a sign between us is the proper medium.â
When he was eighteen years old, Webbâs parents separated and two years later, divorced. The experience damaged him in a way that left him unable to talk about it to anyone. âGary was very intense and he kept a lot of emotions very tight to himself,â Anita says. âA lot of the disappointments he had in life, he kept to himself.â
Kurt Webb says his older brother never truly recovered from the divorce. âGary was a strong sentimental family man,â he says. âHe took umbrage to our parents getting divorced. Gary was an idealist. He wanted a perfect world where people werenât corrupt and where family life really mattered.â
Anita wouldnât say what led to the separation. âIt was a stressful time,â she says. âThings were up in the air. I donât remember. We got in an argument, and he said he was leaving and I said that was fine with me.â But she added that her son never forgave his father for the divorce. âWhen his father broke away from the family, that bothered Gary a great deal,â she says. âI didnât go into gross detail with the kids about why I didnât want to live with their father, because he was a very devoted father. He might not have been the best husband, but thereâs nobody who had a better father than those kids.â
After his parentâs divorce, Webb moved in with Sueâs parents in Indianapolis. They were already talking about marriage. âMy parents had