I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide Read Online Free PDF

comes before excitement). In the excitement phase, the fun begins! Typically, a woman’s heart starts beating faster, her breathing and blood pressure increase, blood flows to her genitals, and her vagina lubricates. Her clitoris gets bigger and harder as she gets turned on, just as a man’s penis gets bigger and harder during arousal. A woman may experience a “sex flush” of pink or darker skin on her neck, chest, or other parts of her body. Her nipples may become erect, and her inner and outer vaginal lips may swell. Most of the time, the woman isn’t thinking about or even aware of the changes in her body. She’s just thinking, “Yeah, this feels good !”
    Then, said Masters and Johnson, there’s a plateau phase. The woman is at a higher level of arousal than she normally is, but she may feel like she got stuck, like she’s no longer making progress. While some later theorists of sexual response omit this phase from their models of arousal, many women we speak with say it describes their experience perfectly. Before Dorian had ever had an orgasm, she’d get aroused, and then get frustrated when it seemed like nothing was happening. So she’d just give up trying, disappointed, and conclude, “I must be broken.” Reading about the plateau phase was her number one breakthrough to having an orgasm; she was stunned to learn that most women experience a plateau phase. If that’s the case, she concluded, it meant her going-nowhere arousal wasn’t a sign she was broken—it was a sign she was normal. Some days a woman may slip directly from excitement to orgasm with barely a plateau phase at all, while other days she might feel like she’s stuck in plateauland forever.
tick, tick, tick, BOOM!
ON AVERAGE, IT takes a woman twenty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. The average guy takes two to five minutes. It’s definitely not fair!
Keep in mind that twenty minutes is an average. Potentially half of women take longer than twenty minutes to have an orgasm. Thirty minutes, forty minutes, or more is not unusual.
Of course, the reverse can also be true. Some women come very quickly, and some men take a long time. People require varying amounts of stimulation, too. We can’t say it any better than The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides: “Some people have orgasms when a lover kisses them on the back of the neck; others need a stick or two of dynamite between the legs. The amount of stimulation needed to generate an orgasm has nothing to do with how much a person enjoys sex.” As with everything related to sex, normal is fantastically diverse.

    Masters and Johnson drew the plateau phase like this . . .

    . . . but if it takes a woman a long time to have an orgasm, sometimes it can feel more like this.
    Most of the time, if the stimulation continues that got the woman to the plateau phase in the first place, eventually she’ll have an orgasm. YAY! The woman’s breathing and heart rate double. Interestingly, a woman’s brain waves during an intense orgasm resemble the brain waves of a person in deep meditation. Women usually like to have the stimulation continue straight through the length of their orgasm. So if it’s your finger, tongue, or penis she’s riding, keep it going until she signals you to stop or moves away!
    After the climax, the woman has a resolution phase, during which her body slowly returns to its nonaroused state. Unless she’s having a multiple orgasm day—more on that on page 25.
    clitoral troubleshooting:
what to do about a too-sensitive clit?
    HERE’S ANOTHER FREQUENTLY asked question: “Sometimes my clit (or my partner’s clit) gets so sensitive, it hurts to be touched. It’s as if it skipped over the orgasm and reached the kind of sensitivity I’d expect after I have an orgasm. What can I do?” Others describe having their clitoris become numb, rather than overly sensitive. If you’ve had either experience, or your girlfriend or wife has, here are