Gentlewoman: Etiquette for a Lady, From a Gentleman Read Online Free PDF Page B

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    There are many things expected of us as gentlemen and we work hard to provide. We’re not looking for praise, just don’t underestimate the value of a thank you or reciprocated gesture. Paraphrased, Galatians 6:7 says, “A (wo)man reaps what (s)he sows.” Therefore, if you require chivalry, then be chivalrous.
    Chivalry isn’t intended to demean. Chivalry is a display of love designed to demonstrate admiration and faith in humankind. We understand you can hold open your own door, but we hold open doors because we honor you. It’s entirely natural for a man to want to protect those he loves.
    Feminism is about equality. Equality is about being able to make a choice. Being a Lady of choice means you get to make one. Whether a gentlewoman chooses to have a career or stay at home with the kids, she’s the one who makes that decision. A contemporary gentlewoman proud of the inability to cook or clean is ridiculous. Being domestic isn’t a duty, but not knowing how to take care of yourself or others is a disgrace. If you don’t care to be domestic, that’s your choice. If another Lady loves being domestic, that’s her choice. The same women who fought for her to have a choice should never critique her about her decisions. Sometimes the main people setting you back can be your own.
    Chivalry is simply courteous behavior. Historically it has been courteous behavior specifically geared toward women. But with progressive advances in the social standing of women over the years, equal treatment is commonplace. Gentlemen deserve to be treated chivalrously by Ladies, too. Chivalry involves courting but extends beyond the boundaries of dating. Chivalry is a way of life. It shows a world that doesn’t give a damn that you do!
    You don’t have to agree. As long as the conversation is created, and the people are talking, my job here is done.
    Rule n ° 7 A successful Lady who wants a successful man isn’t a gold-digger–she’s smart . Ironically, those most concerned about gold-diggers have no gold to be dug! The reality is not every woman who wants a fancy meal is a gold-digger, and not every man who refuses to fund that meal is broke. The real issue is if you love him for who he is despite what he has at the moment. We all deserve what we offer and have the real potential to offer.
    Rule n ° 9 You can’t judge a man by his shoes – billionaire Steve Jobs wore New Balances, and Jesus wore sandals . If Mr. Right is right in front of you, you probably missed him because he has on the wrong shoes. It’s all about perspective and at a certain point you must realize what’s truly important. Classic gangsters wore suits…you can’t judge a man by what he wears. We’re all born naked. Fashion is just life’s cool accessory. Don’t get too caught up in the hype.
    NOTE: The urban sophisticate consumes goods that are subtle and not necessarily recognizable by the general public, but by those in the know. His possessions may not always look it, but they cost much more than the flashy man’s bright suit and flashy shoes. Contemporary gentlemen prefer private pleasures to public swagger and keep their personal portfolio privileged. Sorry.
    Rule n ° 11 When you make us work, the boys will fade, and the gentleman will remain . A Lady hardest to get is the easiest to keep because working hard for something makes us appreciate it that much more. It’s better when it’s earned and more respected when it’s sweated for. This isn’t about being difficult because you can and you’re cute. Who cares...so is she. It’s about insisting that we put real effort in our pursuit because being hard to get is more about fully understanding your worth and refusing to settle, and less about some foolish game you’re playing. Be hard to get, don’t play it. There’s a difference. Figure it out. And when we earn you, honor us, and we’ll forever honor you.
    Rule n ° 13 Managed entitlements : Your existence doesn’t