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Sorry, did you consider calling it “Catching a vibe,” or even “Seize that wave”? I’m not certain it was useful. Maybe that’s why we did it, though. To dive in and not ask why, maybe that was the point. I can say in retrospect that actually, to do a move so unsexy in front of your peers with or without a cork lodged in your jaw has to be useful. I’m wondering if I misunderstood the whole thing? It’s possible that I exhibited some kind of rejection of it that showed on my face despite my protestations of being the most eager student ever. Wow. Okay, so maybe I was not entirely honest about me. Myself. For what it’s worth I think I may get the value of it, however circuitous my arrival at this understanding may be. Yes. So it’s safe to say I am late. In getting it.
    On that day though, after admonishing the entire class you turned away from the mirror to face me, and said, only to my face, while pointing, also at my face
    Why can’t you get this Why can’t you get anything
    Cut to me pulling the midterm evaluation letter from my mailbox that had ARTS PROBATION stamped across it. The letter basically stated that I needed to fix myself or I would be gone.
    I was ashamed and embarrassed. I hated that I would have to tell my father even though I knew he would take my side. I read the evaluation from you that explained why you had suggested that probation. You said that
    She asks inappropriate questions that disrupt class
    She appears spaced-out and bored
    The lack of physical energy is alarming
    Her use of sexuality is offensive
    I was so mad. I felt like I was trying to be what you wanted and you were stuck in your categorical rejection of everything I was. Am.
    I sulked but not so much that I would be caught caring what you thought of me. I went back to the dorm and sat holding the letter, reading and rereading the notice of my potential expulsion. My friend M. came in and asked what was up and I told him that you hated me. I said you were a turd and what you’d written on the evaluation was bogus. I showed him the letter and while still holding it and looking down at it without expression he asked me
    What are you going to do about it
    I said, “Do? What do you mean, ‘do’? I’ve done everything I can. What he wrote isn’t even an evaluation,” and M. said
    Yes it is. That’s what he thinks of you, and he’s the teacher so what are you going to do about it
    I said, “But I feel like I was trying so hard already,” and he said
    It doesn’t matter what you felt, what are you going to do
    The last was a statement and not a question that slapped me so hard I couldn’t look in his face. I sat staring at my feet. Whose side are you on, I asked, and he said yours, but you have to understand that he is the teacher. This is his evaluation of you. It’s up to you to change his opinion.
    The shift where I went from resenting him to my awakening that wow, this person is so correct was swift. I realized yes, this is a naked reality about myself that I have to address even if part of me is still cranky. It was a relief to see that maybe someone’s dislike of me wasn’t intractable, and to own up to the fact that a person who dislikes me isn’t automatically to be dismissed, because: sometimes I am deeply unlikable.
    Our very next class together, I went in with a different set of priorities and not wearing a backless unitard. I was actively defenseless as a choice.
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    When my father was at Officer Candidate School he was taken before the officers for a review. It was standard. The soldiers listened while every fellow before them was taken down for an infraction they’d committed and each man would respond. My dad started to notice sameness in tone with each testimony. Commanding officer would say, you did blah de blah, would you like to offer your explanation, and private whoever would say yes, sir, I realize what I did, but this is why and so on. After the eleventh or twelfth exchange,