guilt, or gripping fears, you will regard your past and what you know about yourself with divine compassion—a heartfelt, soft, but unshakable reality. You will step into something new not because you’ve created it or made it happen, but because your inner warrior will have a home inside you where she can shine and from where she can come forth with ease, grace, and joy. It’s effortless. You won’t have to struggle when you have fully embraced the totality of your nature.
When you embrace instead of reject who you are, when you listen to your true self rather than your ego-driven tyrant, your heart will begin to open to love. When you have committed to being authentically who you were meant to be without shame, guilt, doubt, or any apology, a joy emerges that is rarely seen except in a young child’s face. This shift in your inner world will automatically change what you experience in the outer world. As you alter your relationship with your inner world, as you listen closely and have compassion for your most vulnerable self, the lens with which you view the world changes. Seeing things in this new light, you start to treat yourself and others differently. You look at your patterns not with a harsh hand but with a tender heart, and your external world responds with a vision for your future—your happiness and success—that will propel you toward the woman you always wanted to be.
In part 1 of this book, “A New Paradigm,” I will give you an overview of fear, confidence, and courage, and how they affect your life—your thoughts, your behavior, and your feelings. You will enter a new paradigm of courage and confidence—what they are, how they work, and why we are all so hungry for more.
In part 2, “Moving from Your Head to Your Heart,” I will guide you step-by-step through what I call the codes of the courageous warrior. These codes are designed to reset your inner world, healing old thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors while you begin the exciting and profound journey of becoming a powerful, confident, and courageous warrior of love.
At the conclusion of each code, there will be a transformational process for you to do as well as a courage activator and a confidence builder to strengthen the muscles of courage and confidence within you. Whether you do the process or not, these simple exercises will help you activate your courage, accelerate your confidence, and strengthen your resolve, supporting the rebirth of the warrior within you.
As you approach the final code in this book, you will view the world and your life from an entirely new place. You will become fascinated and awed by the power, courage, and confidence that fill your body with a new kind of strength. Speaking your truth will become a natural expression of your inner warrior. Saying no without guilt when you don’t want or feel like doing something will empower you rather than shame you. You will feel different because you have now accessed the truth of who you were meant to be— yourself! Your attitude will shift from a fearful or defensive stance to a heart-opening strength that will guide you to make new, powerful choices and behave in ways that surprise you.
Even if you feel you can’t do it, the journey in and of itself will alter who you are at the deepest level of your being. I can promise you this because I have taken tens of thousands of people through this transformational process for the past fifteen years. It works when you are ready to put both feet into the warm, beautiful sea of transformational bliss. So take a deep breath, and just give yourself permission to embrace “I am whole.” “I am whole and complete with where my life is as of today.” Not “I want to be whole,” but “I am whole.” “I am whole and complete and I am ready for the next steps.”
I honor you for your commitment to courage. You may not have recognized or acknowledged it yet, but today is the perfect day to begin. So breathe in deeply, and