to be one of the most loving couples in Karberry. Mrs. Foster was the last person Nita would have suspected to have had an affair. Nita lifted her cup in front of her face as if to take a drink, but it was really just a feeble attempt to hide her shock.
"Forgiveness saved our marriage." the widow insisted. "I didn't want to destroy my relationship and I didn't want my marriage to end, neither did Howard."
"He must have been furious."
"Yes, I'm sure he was. And either one of us could have called it quits in a heartbeat, but both of us still considered the commitment we made to each other in our marriage as more important than anything else... even if one of us was acting, for a moment, as if it wasn't. And because we survived, we were better for it."
While finishing their cider, they continued to chat. Mrs. Foster offered one last piece of encouragement. "Dating is a lot of fun. Enjoy it, sweetie. But there will come a time when you won't want to do that anymore. If you're as blessed as I was, you'll meet the person you will spend the rest of your life with. That is my prayer for you, Nita."
Chapter 11
Online Dating
Gina suggested that the four women meet at her home, the way they had been, previously at Hannah's. She told everyone that she needed 'help setting up her profile with an on-line dating site, but promised they wouldn't spend a lot of time with it. She ordered pizzas and put out bottles of water and soda for her friends. Her laptop was booted up and running. She was logged onto the dating site and ready to show off what she had done with her profile so far.
Elle confided to Hannah that she was certain Gina had completely lost her mind in her vigilant quest to meet new men. She complained that her cousin had begun to twist her arm to get her to put up a profile on the same dating site she joined. When Nita arrived, Gina was already asking her friends which of her profile photos they liked best.
"Hi Nita!" Gina said happily.The women had gathered to do something that was all about her. She was enjoying the attention. She was not concerned about anyone having fun, unless they enjoyed being happy for her as she discovered new ways to find more prospective boyfriends.
"I got a match from speed-dating!" Gina announced.
"Me too." Nita said.
"Are you going to the mixer? I am! We could go together!" Gina's extreme excitement was evident in the speed with which the words were escaping from her mouth. It was becoming an annoyance to nearly everyone.
When Gina started to spin her wheels talking about her dating profile, Hannah tried to add balance to a conversation that had become one-sided. She attempted to bring up a new subject. "Ladies, do you remember that book the singles group read last summer? I recently started reading it again."
"You mean that book on Christian relationships?" Elle replied. "I didn't like it."
"Gina added, "The advice seemed outdated. I like to try new ideas, and sometimes, make up my own rules as I go along. It keeps life exciting!"
Hannah defended her position, "Well, don't you think the reason some ideas last so long is because they work? A new idea may be fun for a minute, but if it doesn't work, what's the point? I mean, isn't that the reason why some ideas don't last?"
Gina found herself nodding in agreement. Elle countered, "That book outlined some serious deprivation. Does anyone ever really subject themselves to that?"
"Yes!" Hannah retorted. "I know a lot of people who followed the principles in this book and most of them are in very happy relationships now. Have any of you given it a chance?"
The cousins were silent.
Nita spoke up, "I just started reading that book, too. I've been taking notes to make sure I understand what I am learning so I can make the best decisions about how to use it in my everyday life."
"That's great!" Hannah sounded a bit more encouraged. "I hope you all will give the information in the book another try."
Gina pulled