felt so sorry for him, because he was the nicest guy I've ever met. After dating for a couple of months, my cousin broke up with him. To say that he was devastated was an understatement. My cousin didn't reveal the real reason why she broke up with him, which of course, was his job. She told him that she felt the relationship was moving along too fast, and that she wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
My cousin later found out that her former retail working beau was actually a "trust fund baby," whose family actually owned the entire chain of clothing stores where he worked. He never revealed his familial connections while they were dating because he didn't want my cousin to like him solely based on his family's wealth. Although the guy is still single at this time, he is not interested in resurrecting his relationship with my cousin, although she desperately wants to get back with him.
Although being overly picky is not necessarily a character flaw, it can seriously put a kink into your future plans, as was the case with one of my co-workers. In fact, she was so affected by her pickiness, she ended up in therapy. She could not stay in a relationship longer than a few weeks, because she always found fault in her dates.
If it wasn't that she didn't like how he combed his hair, it was because she didn't like his choice of music. She once broke up with a guy because he showed up at her house with a belt that had coins on it. I know it's a little weird to wear a belt with coins on it, but the guy was perfect for her in every other way. It turned out that the belt was left to him by his grandfather, whose birthday it was on the day that he wore the belt to my co-worker's house.
Anyway, she sought counseling for her inability to forge meaningful relationships, and is finally making progress. The therapist reminded her that nobody is perfect, and to always go into a relationship with an open mind. It was revealed during her therapy sessions that her parents were overly critical of her, and they demanded perfection from she and her siblings.
Apparently, this character trait was passed down to her, as she pretty much demanded perfection from her dates, which of course, she never got. She realized that just as she was not perfect, she could not expect perfection from her dates. She now overlooks the minor things that used to irritate her, and tries focusing on the redeeming qualities of her dates.
You can't really pick and choose the qualities you want from a prospective date. If, however, you choose to try the online dating route, you may have a better chance of weeding out the qualities you prefer not to be faced with in a mate. Online dating services allow you choose people who are suited to your specifications, however, you must be careful.
Some people who set up online dating profiles are not always honest. Their profile pictures might be very outdated, and in some cases, the pictures may not even be of that person. Furthermore, they may fudge about their educational and financial backgrounds, and may even be married.
Of course, this isn't to say that a great number of people who post online dating profiles are not trustworthy and honest. Online dating is extremely popular, and many online dating services even boast about their high marriage rates.
Your pickiness level should fluctuate depending upon your dating objectives. If, for example, you are just looking to date someone to get yourself out of the house every now and then, you might not be as picky as you would if you were seeking a husband or a wife.
If you just want someone to go to dinner or a movie with once in a while, overlooking their differences is easy. Conversely, if you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, overlooking differences becomes much more of a challenge.
When two people love each other, however, they are more willing to make compromises. This is what's so important about trying to stick it out in the early stages of