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sensitive around rejection.
    This doesn’t work. Dwelling on negativity won’t suddenly have positive results. It only brings more negativity into your head. You can’t buy happiness with the currency of unhappiness. The idea that we need to “pay our dues” is a lie told to us by people who wanted our efforts and labor on the cheap.
    You need to build a positive base: physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Once these four “bodies” are working in harmony, you can reach out into the world. You build the foundation for the house you want to live in.
    Some people say, “Through rejection we find strength.” This is most likely bullshit. Maybe you get some strength and you persevere. But it also hurts. I don’t like to be rejected. There are self-help books like Failing Forward or Excuses Begone or other negative-oriented titles that embrace rejection and that basically say success is about 90 percent failure and 10 percent perseverance.
    This isn’t one of those books.
    Here’s what I believe.
    We’re taught at an early age that we’re not good enough. That someone else has to choose us in order for us to be…what?
    Blessed?
    Rich?
    Certified?
    Legitimized?
    Educated?
    Partnership material?
    I don’t know. But this feeling of insecurity overwhelms us. When we are not chosen, we feel bad. When we are chosen—even by idiots—we feel like that one actress (I can’t remember and I refuse to look it up) who said at an awards ceremony, “You like me! You really, really like me!”
    Goldie Hawn? I forget.
    We need to unlearn this imprisonment. Not dissect and analyze it. Just completely unlearn it.
    When I get on a subway, I like to find a seat and read and daydream until I arrive at my destination. Who doesn’t? Nobody likes to hang onto the crowded smelly poles, bumping into people, crowding together, shaking at each stop, trying to hang on for balance, for dear life.
    What does this have to do with choosing yourself?
    A very simple test was done by Yale psychologist Stanley Milgram. He took ten students and sent them on the New York City subway system.
    They went on subways and walked up to all sorts of people who were sitting down: young, old, black, white, female, male, pregnant, etc. To each seated passenger they said, “Can I have your seat?” Seventy percent of the people gave up their seats.
    Two interesting things: one, that the percentage of people who got up was so high. They were simply being asked to get up and they did as they were told.
    But the other interesting thing is how reluctant the students were to even do the experiment. To ask people for their seats went against everything they had ever been taught. This is obviously an extreme. But it points out how hard it is for us to do things for ourselves unless we are given some implicit permission.
    I’m not saying “Choosing Yourself” is equivalent to manipulation. I’m not saying it’s equivalent to always getting what you want.
    But understanding the rules of this Choose Yourself era that we now find ourselves in will give you the confidence and skill set to go out there and simply ask the world for your proper place in it. Without a doubt, you will get what you ask for. Not in a law of attraction sort of way, where the idea is you get what you visualize. That doesn’t work without having all of the other pieces in place.
    This book is about those other pieces, and getting them in place. It’s about understanding the external myths that have broken down; the same ones that created the massive American middle class, which is now dying, and left us with the Choose Yourself era in the fallout. People are walking around blind. If you are the one who can see, you will be able to navigate through this new world. You will be the beacon that will enhance the lives of everyone around you and, in doing so, trigger the actual law of nature that says when you enhance everyone around you, you can’t help but enhance yourself.

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