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any living Chinese teachers of Dual Cultivation. This does not mean that they don’t exist; it’s just that, if they do, they’re not easy to

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    find. Maybe if I spoke Chinese it would help but I’m not so sure! We have also had both good and not-so-good experiences with Western teachers of Tantra and Dual Cultivation. We have consistently heard and read tales of mixed results from other people as well. It does seem that good Sacred Sex teachers are hard to find.
    I would therefore like to make it very clear to our readers that Mieke and I do not claim to be Masters of Taoist Dual Cultivation. In fact, I was seriously considering writing a chapter called ‘How to act like a complete twit with no brain when it comes to sex’ to document some of the disasters I’ve had over the years! Any authority we have comes simply from the fact that we have used the techniques for many years and found, to our own satisfaction, that they work as described. I can also confirm that the energy-work system used is in great accordance with what I have learned through studying Acupuncture, Qi Gong, Tai Chi and Chinese Herbal medicine. We’re sharing what we have discovered in a spirit of humbleness and gratitude to the many thousands of men and women who have spent so much time over the centuries exploring and documenting the techniques of Sacred Sex. We are, literally, in their debt.

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PART TWO
PRACTICE

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Chapter 4
Getting Started
    The exercises in this book, although presented sequentially, actually cover many skills at the same time. For example, creating trust, removing energetic blocks and increasing sensitivity are just some of the things you will practise in each exercise. Learning Sacred Sex is like learning a musical instrument, i.e. you learn the basics, you practise regularly and you add new skills as you go along. It can feel, just as with learning an instrument, as if not much progress is being made at times. This is normal, as it is often difficult to gauge your own progress. So expect that there will be times that you’ll need to be persistent and persevere.
    Dual Cultivation is not a quick fix, but the results are well worth any resistance you may need to overcome. Have patience with yourself, and be thankful you don’t have to spend nine years in a cave like some of the old Taoist and Tibetan monks and nuns!
    There is one other important similarity to learning to play an instrument. If you get stuck, don’t push. As a musician, I have often found that when I come to a difficult musical passage, it is only useful to push myself to a certain point.
    If I push too hard I run the risk of learning how to play the notes incorrectly, which makes it even harder to get it right later. It works much better to wait and try again the next day as, nine times out of ten, it is much easier to approach something fresh the next time. The same applies to the exercises in this book.
    Give them a try, and if you feel stuck, just stop what you’re doing and try again later. There’s no ‘should’ or ‘must’ involved. It’s all about learning to ‘go with the flow’ as the Taoists would say.

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    Beyond Tantra – Healing Through Taoist Sacred Sex About the PRACTICE Chapters
    Each practice chapter is divided into sections. I suggest that both partners read through all the chapters before they start the practical work. If you’re the kind of people who like to discuss things with each other, then go ahead and talk about what you’ve read and what you think and feel about it. The more you can open the lines of communication, the better.
    The Understanding
    The Understanding presents a fundamental concept of Dual Cultivation.
    The Background
    The