it as typical teenage stuff at first. But then ADF the high school guidance counselor called Mom and me into her office and explained that, nope, there was nothing garden-variety about my running out of a swim meet after months of training, or about dropping advanced art, or my GPA tumbling from a 3.7 to a 1.7. Mr. Walton used the D wordââdepressionââand that hurled my mom into this completely uncharacteristic panic. Mom is a go-getter, not a panicker. If I hadnât already been totally lost and scared, seeing my put-together, perfect mother clutch her chest and blather hysterically about how sheâd had no ideaâwell, that certainly would have done the trick.
Mom took me to my geriatric pediatrician, Dr. Calvin (whoâd been old when he was her pediatrician), and he wrote me scripts for a low-dose antidepressant and some anti-anxiety meds, offered me a toy from the chest of plastic trinkets for the little kids, and told us I needed therapy.Mom got Dr. Brooksâs name from one of her regular highlights clients. Apparently Dr. B. had helped the womanâs son, and the kid had gotten his act together enough that heâd been able to turn things around and had gotten into Florida A&M. This impressed Mom. My mother may not have gone to college herself, but itâs a very big thing for her that V and I go. I think it has to do with proving something to her own mother.
Anyway, the first couple of sessions with Dr. B., I just sat there, arms and legs crossed (sitting was, it turns out, slightly less uncomfortable than lying down), and gave one-word answers to the questions he asked about my family and school and what might have changed for me. So much of what was going on was stuff I couldnât even begin to explain to myself, even if Iâd wanted to. Then one day Dr. B. noticed me tucking my earphones into my backpack, and he asked about what kind of music I listened to. We started talking about some of the nineties bands that I knew about from Alex or my mom, and it turned out that Dr. B. had actually seen a lot of them when he was in high school and college. For the next session he brought in some Stone Temple Pilots bootlegs, and we talked about those, and gradually, talking about other stuff got a little easier.
Now Iâm a total convert. The dude is awesome. And even though he knows all this crazy stuff about me, he doesnât treat me as if Iâm a Fabergé egg. ADF a lot of peoplein my life either cut me off or started talking to me in a syrupy voice, as though I would crumble into a billion pieces if they said something to upset me. But Dr. B. acts like Iâm an actual human, not something thatâs going to shatter.
âWhatâs a Flaming Dante?â He points to my shirt.
âOh.â I blush. âItâs Alexâs band.â
âYour friend from work, huh?â he asks, and I nod. âI take it he just read The Divine Comedy ?â
âWell, his friend did,â I mumble. âYouâd like the band; they sound kind of nineties.â
âYou talk about him quite a bit, and now youâre wearing his shirt; is he becoming more than a friend?â
I shrug. Even though I couldnât wait to talk to Dr. B. about all of what happened with Alex and T.J., now it just sounds like high school drama.
âMolly.â Dr. B. cocks his head. âYou know this only works if you tell me whatâs going on.â
âI donât know. I feel bad because I think he wants us to be more than friends, and Iâve been blowing him off.â
âHe asked you out, and you said no?â
âTechnically.â
âAnd this has happened before?â
âI think. Itâs hard to tell sometimes.â
âSo you say, âThanks, but no thanks,â and he still keeps asking you out, and then he makes you feel as though youâve done something wrong by rejecting him?â
âItâs not exactly like